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I am constantly being asked by people when and if I am going to have another child? I am 46!

YANBU. People started asking me that when DS was only about a month old . I just say no and offer no explanation whatsoever - most people move on swiftly!

Smile sweetly and say 'Why do you ask?'

Last time I just said "well no, Im nearly 50 you know!"

YANBU at all. It's very irritating.

My MIL visited me in hospital less than 1h after DS2 was born (on my invitation) and the first thing she said to me was "are you going to have any more"! I'm guessing it was said tongue in cheek, but it did take me by surprise a bit.

Or you could try the 'What? Well no, of course not.' with a puzzled look, as if it's the silliest question in the world. Like they've just asked you if you're planning on selling the children you have to fund research into the fake Moon landings conspiracy.

Puts them right on the back foot.

I'm in the same situation... I just look horrified and say "God no, are you mad?"

I think this seems to just spill out of peoples mouths when they are speaking to mothers with children. Since having my DD I think almost everyone I know has asked me if I want more children, usually phrased as "so when are you having another one then".

"Whenever I bloody choose, now piss off" would sort them out

Reply "Are you?". Even if they are male, elderly etc. That usually annoys people

I get asked the same at 42. My eldest is 19 so I tell them the next pram you see me pushing will hopefully contain my grandchild

I always reply "why? Whats wrong with the ones I have?"

Haha K999 I'd be afraid they might actually tell me

This is just people making conversation. Ineptly maybe, but nothing to be offended or annoyed about.

I just burst into uncontrollable sobs......they usually stop asking then

I decided 12 years ago that I wouldn't have any more children but I still get asked often. I usually just say 'Oh, I don't know' and change the subject. I suppose I should be flattered really that they think I look as though I'd be capable of it (biologically I am, just couldn't stand the sheer exhaustion again though!)

I'd be flattered that they still think you young enough. I was asked the same last week (am nearly 46) and felt sad as I know I can't biologically have any more, but flattered that obviously hadn't occured to the person asking!