AIBU to not like my family at the moment? (apart from my mum)

[bustersgirl]

I've just lost my 3rd baby in less than 9 months, none of my family has given me any support, then it was my DS birthday party today and nobody turned up...they had hangovers, I've just had to throw loads of food away because of them (money could of got DS another present). I'm fed up off doing partys for my kids and my family letting them down.

I'm now at the point where i no longer want anything to do with my family.

I don't know what to say, but I'm sorry that things are so awful.

I'm so sorry about your babies

Heartbreaking.

It must just pile on the pain when your family can't even make the effort to try and show you some support, at the very least it's extremely rude of them to leave your poor DS staring at all the uneaten food you'd prepared.

What does your mum think of them pandering to their hangovers?

I'm sorry to hear this (big hug) Family are the worst. YANBU. You should talk to them they could be unaware of your feelings. Are they the type of people that wouldn't bring up bad things in fear of upsetting you?

Oh I'm so sorry for your losses. YANBU. Is it possible they thought you might not want lots of people around?

I hope your mum gives them a good telling off.

How totally thoughtless. You should treat yourself to a nice evening of cuddles with your children and a long hot bath (massage your scalp to relieve anger) and try and put it far far from your mind. You might also chat to your mother to have a bit of a vent about this.

YANBU at all, that's outrageous behaviour from them! A hangover is never a good reason to miss something like this. How old is your son? And you shouldn't need to talk to them about it just drop them. I assume you mean wider family - brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles etc not your DP/H. In which case simply don't contact them. When/if they get in touch with you, answer the phone with "I hope you're ringing to apologise"!

for you losses

I'm so sorry about your babies
as for birthday parties I would stick to asking friends and those who have kids of the same age as your DC for a bite to eat
keep it low key and for your KIDS not "family"

Know you know, next time get your kid the present and dont hold a family party

and very un mn hug to you

sorry about your loss.

don't invite them next year. just arrange a birthday tea with a handful of playmates.

when i lost mine i cut the wheat from the chaff so to speak- i recieved firm support from many but seperated my self from the more rubbish friends/family.