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Lift Etiquette- warning Judgy Pants well and truly hoiked up

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LordOfTheFlies · 14/05/2011 18:34

In fact Judgy Pants were so high up in a wedgie they were over my lower jaw and tongue in a Scolds Bridle fashion.Just as well as DD doesn't really want to see her mother lose the plot.
Okay. Today,town centre Sainsburys, 4 storey car-park.Escalator and travelator to floor 1. 3 lifts., one which is for trolleys not customers.One not working: one in use.
Full trolley waiting for lift, theres a couple of women with buggies, some who didn't look so mobile but a fair few with 1 or 2 small bags who could use the stairs.
I know you can't tell just by looking if someone has got any disabilities but these were the 'tutting' and abusing the trolley collector ones who eventually went up the stairs ( because they got bored waiting not because of their conscience pricking them)
I may well be Unreasonable but I really wanted to tell them to get the bloody stairs leave the lifts free for those who need them
Happens all the time and just today it really hacked me off.
runs away and puts on full suit of armour.With shin pads

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mumblechum1 · 14/05/2011 18:39

you need to get out more Wink

coastgirl · 14/05/2011 18:41

There's no law about who can use lifts - they're not just for people who can't use the stairs but for anyone who wants to use them. Even perfectly 100% able-bodied, child-free, unencumbered people have times when they just can't be arsed to walk upstairs - it's allowed you know!

lockets · 14/05/2011 18:42

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fluffles · 14/05/2011 18:43

i am totally able-bodied, but sometimes i do silly things like run marathons which mean i really really can't use the stairs the next day... sorry... should i be taken out and shot??

pjmama · 14/05/2011 18:44

I once got stuck on the middle floor of a department store with my buggy. The lift stopped for me several times and each time the doors opened and it was crammed full of people who looked perfectly able to use the escalator (not stairs, escalator - minimum effort required!). Eventually a staff member waited with me and asked the next lift full if anyone would be kind enough to vacate and use the escalators, so I could get in. I'd been waiting about 20 minutes by then. The ONLY person who volunteered to make room for me was a very pregnant lady and her husband, to whom I am eternally grateful.

I was disgusted by the rest of the lazy buggers.

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LordOfTheFlies · 14/05/2011 18:47

Shouldn't expect sympathy Hmm its just with 2 out of 3 lifts out of action I would expect my fellow shoppers to be a bit more considerate.If we all got the lifts I'd still be waiting there now.
Goes off to starch my stiff upper lip, rant over

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Birdsgottafly · 14/05/2011 18:55

I have low blood pressure which means that i can collapse using an escalator, i go dizzy using the stairs, if i am shopping and overdoing things. It puts others at risk if i don't use the lifts. I am sick of having arguements with people who think i am just being lazy because i don't look disabled.

I have this condition after being seriously ill and had the same problem when i used to be sitting but my mother, who was 79 but in good health, stood on buses. It makes life as a disabled person harder.

I could be negative about some of the mums i see with children who can walk but won't go down that route. Shops accessability came about after the 1995 Disability discriminaton act, not so women with prams (with walking children) could get about easier.

I was going to add 'in my day' you had to have a lightweight buggy, fold and carry it, to get about, but now i feel ancient.

zukiecat · 14/05/2011 19:07

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mymummyisasquarehead · 14/05/2011 19:12

Get over yourself already!!

Who are you to decide who can and can't use lifts?! It is entirely up to the individual if they feel like using a lift or not.

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LordOfTheFlies · 14/05/2011 19:21

I'm not a lift monitor I'm an observer.I didn't say anything, probably just as well or I might have had a new one ripped.
I just assumed ( obviously wrongly) that anyone who could walk ,would.As I said the ones who were muttering and demanded the trolley guy let them use it were the ones who eventually left.
My kids and I use the stairs as theres no reason for us not to, except with a full trolley.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 14/05/2011 19:23

I look perfectly fine but have a very bad back and knee and stairs can hurt, put your judgy pants away

MotherSnacker · 14/05/2011 19:27

They are entitled to use a lift on the grounds of being a lazy arse as long as they let those who need it go first.

BluddyMoFo · 14/05/2011 19:29

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MotherSnacker · 14/05/2011 19:31

Birdsgottafly. I have a two year old and push him around shops in a buggy.How can I carry the buggy, shopping and control a two year old. I don't have a car so nowhere to leave the buggy. Shops are not designed purely for disabled access, plenty of other customers have valid needs.

Birdsgottafly · 14/05/2011 19:39

Mother- pre 1995 it was very difficult to get about with children. The changes came in after the DDA many shops tried there best to not have to make them. You had to buy an umberella buggy at 6 months old because otherwise you could not have travelled on buses or got about much at all.

My point was that you cannot say that your need is greater by looking at someone. There is another thread at the moment because a pregnant woman was asked to move by a woman with a disabled child. Im sorry but disability does have as much (if not more than) a valid reason than any other. Ive done the shopping with young children and now i am doing it with a disability and i'd take the 'children hardship' any day.

bupcakesandcunting · 14/05/2011 19:41

I will stick my head above the parapet and say YANBU. Common courtesy has gone out of the window and has been replaced by the "me me me" culture.

Fucksticks.

MotherSnacker · 14/05/2011 19:51

Of course the disabled have it worse and should get priority. But Mothers and children should be catered for too was all I was saying. And yes you can't tell who is being lazy just by looking at them.

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LordOfTheFlies · 14/05/2011 19:53

Thank you Bupcakes you can shag Robson Green in MY OWN PERSONAL lift with my name on it-and I'll hold the door.Provided I don't have to watch/join in[ wink]

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MotherSnacker · 14/05/2011 19:53

And some people with disabilities can get up the stairs it would just be painful.

bupcakesandcunting · 14/05/2011 19:53

"Provided I don't have to watch/join in[ wink]"

Spoilsport. Grin

MoreBeta · 14/05/2011 19:54

YABVU!

Go shopping at Sainsburys online. No escalator required. Simples.

Punkatheart · 14/05/2011 19:57

I am a cancer patient. I don't look ill. But I am often too exhausted to take stairs. It is churlish to make judgements.

CrapBag · 14/05/2011 20:26

I have M.E. You can't see it, I look completely fine. Stairs knacker me out and its this sort of judgement that makes it worse for people with invisible disabilities.

bupcakesandcunting · 14/05/2011 20:31

"I have M.E. You can't see it, I look completely fine. Stairs knacker me out and its this sort of judgement that makes it worse for people with invisible disabilities"

Look, you need to wear t-shirts to let us know or summat or some hero gobshite like me or OP WILL have a pop at you and end up with oeuf on our faces. Something witty like "Don't mind me, I have M.E" or "I put the M.E in ASSUME"

I am joking please don't tear me a new one Wink