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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think this is a bit weird/gross

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crashingwaves · 14/05/2011 11:27

My friend puts pics up on Facebook (she is late 20s) and - I don't quite know how to explain as they aren't inappropriate but they are generally very posed, in quite 'sexy' poses if you see what I mean.

Anyway her DAD is always commenting on them saying how gorgeous and pretty she looks. Nearly all her pics have these 'conversations' under them with him saying how pretty she is, her saying no I am not etc.!

Anyone else think that's a bit weird? Or am I being gross myself!?

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redexpat · 14/05/2011 11:34

I think it's a bit odd, but my Dad has only once paid me a compliment. It's tough to judge without seeing the pics.

PaperView · 14/05/2011 11:35

I think it's odd but I then my dad has NEVER complimented me and can't see anything on my fb anyway ......

confuseddotcodotuk · 14/05/2011 11:36

No, YANBU, the photo thing alone is weird. If you hadn't of said late 20's I'd have guessed 15-17yo... the Dad thing is a bit strange, but maybe he just doesn't think it might be weird to others

lubberlich · 14/05/2011 11:38

Why do people waste so much of their life worrying about other people and their tedious mundane inane little lives on Facebook. Who the fuck cares?

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crashingwaves · 14/05/2011 11:39

My dad sometimes says something spontaneous like, "Oh, you look nice!" but I find it odd. She is a tiny bit narcisstic with pictures though - has a LOT up that are clearly taken herself! (I don't mean the odd one for a change of profile pic.)

She always insists on tagging her children in pictures even though they are all under 5 which I also find weird!

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freeandhappy · 14/05/2011 11:41

Also what's with the sexy poses on facebook pics? Is there a new fashion for sticking your Tongue out when having pic taken? All my more youthful friends do this and I don't think it looks nice at all. Also pics of girls touching tongues leaves me a bit .

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crashingwaves · 14/05/2011 11:44

Urrghh, I haven't seen any touching tongues pics! Mine seem more predominantly to be taken with a camera phone in a mirror leaning forwards so as to reveal some cleavage!

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icooksocks · 14/05/2011 11:52

Crashingwaves-I have somefriends that take them sort of photo's, usually after a bit of delving you find the are the ones who have 999 friends and probably don't even know half of them.
As for the dad thing, depends really-he and his daughter could just be really close and he genuinely thinks se is beautiful and see's no reason why he can't tell her that.

worraliberty · 14/05/2011 11:55

I don't think it's any weirder than a Dad having a model for a daughter and saying she looks nice in the poses...although it would make me feel very uncomfortable if they were my photos and my Dad.

Her children have FB accounts and they're under 5?

burgerandchipswithredsauce · 14/05/2011 11:55

If the pics offend you don't look at them. Simple really. Why the fuck are you so concerned about other people pics anyway? So what if her dad thinks she's beautiful. Most dads think their dd's are beautiful - even if their faces have cracked a few mirrors iyswim?

FreudianSlipper · 14/05/2011 11:57

you may see them as being sexual but he is seeing his daughter so no i do not think its strange, but think poses like that are a little pathetic and attention seeking

SoloIsAHotCougar · 14/05/2011 11:57

Sounds like she's fishing for complements to me saying she's not pretty etc.

ashamedandconfused · 14/05/2011 12:01

DD is not on facebook nore does she wish to be, but over half her class are - they are Y6, not all 11 yet. and yes, lots of the girls have a sultry pose on their profile. A few even have NO privacy settings (I was able to see everything about them when I snooped) What are the parents playing at?

I do think a dad going on about his grown up DDs looks is a bit odd, especially if "sexy" poses

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crashingwaves · 14/05/2011 12:05

Her children don't have FB pages but she just tags them in every pic! Burgerandchips - a bit OTT, I didn't say they offended me! I guess I just find it kind of odd as he makes comments more in line with what a husband/boyfriend would say - :S

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HaughtyChuckle · 14/05/2011 12:05

Sounds like she's fishing for complements to me saying she's not pretty etc.

^^ ditto

Its hard to say without a proper example of the comments he may see nothing wrong with it. like you said there not innapropriate

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 14/05/2011 12:28

I think it would be weird if he was saying "you look sexy" but I don't think there is anything weird or wrong with a father telling his daughter "you look really pretty" or "you look really nice" or even "You look gorgeous"

That's quite fatherly, imo. "oh poppet, you look lovely." "Oh petal, don't put yourself down, you're gorgeous"

of course, it does depend on tone. Which can be hard to judge in writing.

If, otoh, it's "phwoor, you look gorgeous in that skimpy bikini, love", then that's a bit strange.

SignOnTheWindow · 14/05/2011 13:27

Yes it does seem odd, but perhaps she has issues with her looks that her parents are very well aquainted with. One possibility anyway...

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