My Grandmother rang last week and mentioned they'd like to buy something when our baby is born. I said we hadn't expected anything from anyone, but if she wanted to, that would be wonderful, thankyou.
She then asked if we'd bought pushchair yet, which we have, soshe asked if we had a cot. We haven't but I explained that we are waiting until we move in August as it will need to go in our room and for that reason we might need to get a cot as opposed to a cotbed. (my DH is in the army and we don't know what our house will be like yet) I also said a cot would be extremely generous of them and although we'd really appreciate it, there was no need for such an extravagant gift.
So, she rang again tonight to discuss the cot again. I reminded her that we weren't sure what we'd need and she asked if we'd seen one we liked. I said yes, but it is a cotbed, so we aren't sure if we can get it yet and it is also very expensive, so we would really expect to buy it ourselves. There was a pause and she seemed put out. So I said that if they wanted to contribute to it we'd really appreciate that, although we'd understand if they didn't want to.
My Grandmother then said 'you'v really gone to town this time with expensive things, haven't you? Why is that?' (this is my 6th baby, mine and my DH's third together, but we lost twin girls last year and I have had quite a few early miscarriages) I didn't reply but wanted to say that we could afford it and hadn't been abl to buy anything last time, so were making the most of it, not least as we'd like another child after this but might not be able to cope with another pregnancy.
The conversation then went on a bit, but my Grandmother seemed really put out. WIBU to suggest a contribution as what we ideally wanted was expensive? 