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to celebrate my sons birthday 6 months late from now on?

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DialsMavis · 13/05/2011 19:29

In light of the other Birthday party thread in AIBU:

Due to various reasons I am finally having DS's birthday party next week. His birthday was a couple of days before christmas .

He is so excited about it and hasn't minded waiting as he is a lovely boy (deep down )

WIBU to have his party in summer every year? His birthday just gets swallowed up by Christmas, the weather is appalling and he ends up completely overwhelmed by New Year. (His father and I are separated so he gets 2 Christmases too).

I am now worried people would see it as not a real party, or an excuse to get presents or something.

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Idgiethreadgoode · 13/05/2011 20:54

YABU. Nothing wrong wrong with a Christmas birthday, mine is Dec 23. It's a lovely time of year to celebrate, everybody feeling festive, house decorated. I had pantomime outings, parties, no problem, I was never remotely jealous of summer babies or had combined presents. Having said that, DH birthday is NY eve, which is a bit rubbish.

purpleknittingmum · 13/05/2011 20:56

My daughter is a New Year Day baby and I have asked her what she would prefer

She wouldn't want to have a party in the summer as an 'unbirthday' party. It is terrible for our household, my birthday is mid Nov, OH is mid Dec, Christmas and then daughter's birthday!

My OH has just said that he got crap presents for his birthday, but his sister who has a summer birthday got better stuff and more money spent on her.

For me it wouldn't feel right doing a party in the summer for something that happened months before

GwendolineMaryLacey · 13/05/2011 20:58

I think it's different having a pre-Christmas birthday. Everyone is full of festivity. After Christmas there is the miserable slump. Everyone is pissed off, cold and skint. Poor dd barely got a look in this year and she's only 3.

purpleknittingmum · 13/05/2011 21:03

When we used to do parties for our daughter at those play centres, we had to supply a couple of prizes for the games, I used to make sure they weren't chocolate as I knew parents would be fed up with more chocolate so would get little mini games and stuff like that

I think my daughter is glad to never have to be at school for her birthday! Depending on her job she may also never have to work on it!

x2boys · 14/05/2011 09:15

good for you my ds1 birthday is boxing day so consequently never had a proper birthday party i might do this

Kitty0608 · 14/05/2011 10:09

Found this really intesting - my birthday is in January & I can remember as a child wishing I could have a birthday in June like my sister instead of having a birthday when it was cold, dark & miserable!!

My 2 DS birthdays are November & December and I think a summer unofficial birthday sounds like a great idea. Was just wondering if those who have this receive presents on the real birthday or do they wait until the unofficial one?

Mumnotmachine did you receive presents on your June your birthday & if so didn't you mind waiting?

BingRugmole · 14/05/2011 10:19

My dad is one of four - three born in June, one born at Christmas - when they were kids the one with the Christmas birthday always used to have their birthday party in June like the others. Not unreasonable at all if your kid is happy with it.

MumblingRagDoll · 14/05/2011 10:21

We always have DD1s bday party 4 weeks in advance! Her bday is in the summer hols and ALL her schoolmates are away every year! (bloody rich people)

Happygochuckie · 15/05/2011 23:10

Sorry I think this is a bit strange tbh, My birthday is directly between Christmas and New Year, and I've managed for 22 years to have celebrations of some sort then. Sure, as a tiny kid I was always upset It was too cold to have a bouncy castle and bbq, and halls were generally booked up, and people were often busy visiting family, but we just got on with it, I learnt to be content and make do, and by the time I was a teen I loved my Christmassy/New Year birthday - I just feel like I'm celebrating for the whole Christmas-New Year week, and for previous 3 years (excl my 21st) I have simply combined it with New Year, so it has got very wild and messy! That way I get an all nighter party, and usually fireworks too. Otherwise, I have a small family thing on my actual birthday, and then a party or activity a few weeks later in Jan when people are more likely to be free. To have it 6 months later would just be weird though. Its no where near my birthday, it would feel even stranger than celebrating on new year or January. I am a December baby - why should I blow out candles and open presents in June? Isn;t he going to be confused as to when he actually becomes a year older?
Having said that....my lovely doting Godparents always slip me some goodies on my half-birthday, and its a tradition I have kept for my godchildren and nieces and nephys. perhaps you could still have a celebration in the summer, but make it clear that its for his half-birthday instead of his actual birthday instead?

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