to be annoyed that my baby clothes have been hijacked?

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Sorry this is long...
A few weeks ago I decided that it was time to clear out the large quantity of baby clothes I'd been hanging on to. Despite the fact that I am pretty sure that my youngest (now 2.5) will be my last DC and am ok with this, I still found parting with them pretty difficult as I've got a few DC and some items have been passed down between them, so its "the end of an era". I know this is perhaps a little silly but I feel quite emotional about them.

DH and I are pretty skint just now and were going to sell them but decided to see if we could give away at least some of them as believe it or not the idea that they could go to someone we knew of who needed them, made it easier. As I didn't know anyone immediately I asked at the church based toddler group I go to if they knew anyone who needed baby clothes, as a lot of the mums there are active in the church and community (I do not go to the church).

Now I've been going to this toddler group for several years so know the mums there fairly well, see them socially occasionally etc. One of the mums, who is a friend, knew of someone who needed 3+ months, while another mum knew someone with a newborn.

I washed and ironed the relevant sized summer clothes, got rid of the worn ones, put most of them on hangers. It took a bit of time and effort but they did look pretty good in the end and there were quite a few rarely and some never worn, still with labels or in the package.

I dropped the clothes off at the weekend. Anyway yesterday the mum whom I'd given the 0-3 month clothes to pass on said she'd noticed there were some newish clothes there and that the newborn family probably didn't need many clothes for their baby so would it be ok if she kept back some of the best ones and sold them at a nearly new sale for her dc's nursery?

I was really taken aback so just murmured ok but am now pretty annoyed because:

1. I really wanted the clothes to go to someone who needed them. I was giving the clothes to the baby and not to her so the baby's family should get to decide what they want or need, not the intermediary. I could find another family to give the extra clothes to.
2. Surely she must realize I could sell them myself and a) keep the money for my family who could do with it, b) use it for MY dc's nursery (a different one), school or cubs and scouts who are all fundraising just now or c) give some or all of it to a worthwhile charity of my choice.
3. She didn't say "X doesn't need them all so would you like the clothes back or can I sell them " -just- " I was going to do this, is it OK."

AIBU to get so annoyed about this?

Would you ask for the extra clothes back, or would you let her go ahead but tell her you weren't happy, or would you just let it go? To be honest I do still have a lot of clothes (winter ones and bigger sizes) and baby equipment which, after this lesson in misplaced philanthropy, I will definitely be selling so I am tempted to just let it go. Toddler dc goes to nursery after summer so it's my last few months at the group anyway.

She is very rude IMO. why was she going through the clothes? How dare she decide not to pass the newest clothes on to the newborn family.

You would be perfectly within you rights to ask for the clothes back. Tell her about a new pg you've found out about(as suggested) Or, gulp, that the idea of selling the clothes for the benefit of YOUR dc's nursery/playgroup/etc is one of genius so thank her so much for planting that idea in your head!! Or get her to sell them on your behalf for a charity you both support.

I have to admit in your shoes, I'd have muttered "ok", come on here, got support from the lovely mn. Then let it go. i'm too chicken to ask for them back. I hope you're more feisty than me!!!