still hurting!

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I've found my childs playground at school daunting, even worse when I was actually at school myself.

I fell out with few mums at school, at the time I thought we were really good friends. At the time I was depressed after having my second child so this made things seem 10 times worse for me.

I still don't talk to these mums, I tried so hard at the time to put things right, but was just met with abuse shout at me in the playground of all places. They have never tried to speak to me either, except i work in the local shop and I 've served them a few times but I keep conversation to the essentials please, thank you ete

I have since come off anti depressents, have made new friends, but still when I enter that playground and they are there I feel like a nervous wreck.

How can I move on, block these people out of my mind

Sounds odd but I was told when I was going through similar that when you think of them or come into contact them imagine them with their normal body but with a red shape instead of a head, it sounds mad but it works.

Also when going into the yard use an ipod/mp3 player and be in a little word of your own.

i was never a school ground mixer while waiting for my kids

i would just stand away from the cliques/groups and wait for my children

its not really rocket science

If you're having abuse shouted at you in the playground I would say it's worthwhile speaking to the headteacher at the school. It can't be school policy to allow abuse (swearing?) to be shouted around playgrounds in front of children. Not being spoken to is upsetting but not the end of the world - you have real friends, after all. But verbal abuse is very distressing, not just for you but for other people and children within earshot. Get them dealt with.

Where abouts are you physically, and why do you have to get a seat today?

I wanted a rear facing seat for my toddler and searched all over. Many places stocked one only but I wanted to look at them and get advice. I ended up driving all the way to Milton Keynes from east london to this place:

www.incarsafetycentre.co.uk/contact.html

They were amazing, they stock a large range of forward facing and rear facing seats for all sizes of kids and also for special needs kids. They were really helpful and even fit the seat for me and offered to help in future if I ever forgot how to do it (which would be easy given it's quite complicated as its UBER safe and attaches to the car at 6 points)

If you're anywhere near I would try them - or at least give them a call for some advice.

oh no, cross posted, sorry!!! please ignore me!

God, playgrounds can be awful. I fell out with one of the mothers after her dog attacked my 2 year old. I was never sure who were her friends and therefore who thought I was a mad cow ( i am a mad cow, but not in a bad way).

Drop and dash is good - you have somewhere more important to be remember. And take a book or magazine for picks ups if you're early, so you can look absorbed. But take any opportunities to be friendly, there are probably others like you. Both my DSs started new schools this year, and it's taken a fair while to meet friendly mums, especially for the older one. Going on a school trip, where there was another mother also helping was good for me.

Thank you for all your messages, will try to put some into practice. Have been to a toddler group this morning with friends and forgot all about it.

Most people just keep interaction when they're dropping off the DC to a minimum.

I usually only 'surface chat' to a few mums I've known since DD1 started, but otherwise just keep myself to myself.

What on earth happened for them to be shouting abuse at you?

It sounds very unusual.

Getting down to brass tacks, what does it matter if they don't talk to you? Sounds like you're better off if they're the kind of people to be shouting abuse in a playground full of children.