..to be worried / upset for my son?

[TechnoKitten]

Could just be a massive case of PFBitis but am quite upset for him so here goes.

He's 5, started school 2 weeks ago and initially seemed to be settling in fine - came home shattered but reasonably chirpy, talking about some other boys in the class he'd been sitting with & playing with at break times.

Today he says that now he's mostly playing by himself and that none of the other boys want to be his friend any more. When he goes to sit next to them in class they get up and move somewhere else. He doesn't seem bothered unless I try to ask him about it and then when we talk he gets upset and cries.

I don't want him to be the odd kid that nobody likes but not really sure what to do - can't force the other children to be friends if they don't want to be.

Do all children go through this? Do I need to be in the "in clique" of about 6 mothers who all seem to know each other? (class size 14). Hate thinking he's getting so upset about this. I know he can make friends, he has a few mates from nursery who have since gone on to different schools.

Any suggestions?

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My son is just turned 16 and has just got his 1st girlfriend. I am really pleased about it and he seems happy. They are spending all their time together and I've had to impose making sure she goes home at a reasonable time, particularly in the week. He's known her for a while but have only been formally 'going out' together for a week. She is 15 and (he says) is 'experienced' (he is not) and they are not on the verge of having sex. He is asking if she can sleepover on Saturday with him on the floor and her taking his bed. I've said 'no' because she is 15 and he is only just 16 and they only just got together. Also I clearly am not ready for the idea of this and need to adjust to my son being a proper adolescent. He's basically a good boy tho' inexperienced and immature. She seems very nice tho' we don't really know her yet. Have not met or spoken to her mum yet but I get the impression that her mum's not too bothered what she gets up to - because "her mum trusts her" I'm told. Am I right to say 'no', when should I review my position and what next ?

I'm new to this so ignore the last message becasue I've now started a new thread for this topic :)

What Divey ?

OP it is hard, isn't it!

I'm going through something similar right now; DS had loads of friends in his 3 year old class but this year in a much bigger class it's not the case. And DH took DS to the playground last night and DS saw a friend of his from last year. He ran up and asked her if she wanted to play and she said no and that she wasn't his friend anymore. :( He didn't seem bothered but it just twisted my heart. (PFB, I know! )

I am going to do as Scottishmummy suggested, I think; make sure to invite kids over.

I think you also need to suss out if this is just something that happened on 1 or 2 days or has happened say for a week. If ony for a day or two, may all blow over quickly.