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AIBU?

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To think it's disgusting that my 8 year old God-daughter is teased for not wearing a bra?

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MummiMoMo · 12/05/2011 20:00

My 8 year old (9 in July) God-daughter goes to a local village school which seems to be populated by chavs. TBF, she is one of the youngest in her year group and we treat her like the little girl that she is, so she is perhaps 'young for her age'.

However, the little madams in her school have teased her to the point of tears several times for not wearing a bra when she gets changed for PE. AIBU to think that this is a bit sick? What kind of parents have been putting their 8 and 9 year old daughters in to bras? What kind of shops are SELLING these products for God's sake?

Unfortunately my friend has had to give in to demand but has drawn the line at a bra and she has a little crop top. It breaks my heart to now see her feel self concious about her "boobs". Her mum doesn't want to make a fuss and I don't think has mentioned it to the school, but this has made me so angry and cross.

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first and when I hear about how little girls are with each other I pray that we have a boy...

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cassierosse · 12/05/2011 20:02

YANBU.

squeakytoy · 12/05/2011 20:04

Lots of girls that age are starting to develop, and will be wearing the sports style crop top bras.

I went to a school that certainly wasnt chavs, and girls still tease each other about their bodies at that age, it is perfectly normal behaviour.

MoonGirl1981 · 12/05/2011 20:06

8 year olds in bras?

Ewwwwwwwwwwwww!!

You can get high heels for children too.

I was in the doctors waiting room a few weeks back and myself and partner were flicking through the magazine, he points to an advert and says 'is that a little girl?'

Yup. Little girl. In a little black lacy dress, make-up, heels and handbag. It's fucked up!

I thankfully have a boy, this kind of malarchy would mess me up.

squeakytoy · 12/05/2011 20:08

I needed a bra by the age of 9. I started my periods when I was 10. Wearing a bra doesnt mean you need to wear unsuitable outer clothes you know!

JemAndTheHolograms · 12/05/2011 20:09

Well I wore a bra when I was 8, but that's because I had boobs! (My sister developed boobs at the age of 6)! But it's very sad for your GD to be teased for not wearing a bra especially if she doesn't have boobs. Poor thing.

I was teased because I was wearing a bra (me and 1 other girl in the class wore them). The boys used to twang the back of it through my shirt I hated it.

AgentZigzag · 12/05/2011 20:10

It just shows they'll tease about anything.

So it's not about the bra (or lack of) if it wasn't that it'd be what colour hair she had/shoes/bag/parents/rented or bought house blah blah blah.

I was teased at 11 for still wearing a vest.

I just didn't need a bra then, although I could have done myself a favour and ditched the vest

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MummiMoMo · 12/05/2011 20:12

Let's face it, it's unusual for girls to be getting boobs at 8, although I accept it does happen. To my knowlege, none of the girls in this class are particularly 'developed'. And to put it in context, when she was six she had a Scooby Doo lunch box and was teased for being "a baby"...

(And for the record, I have huge knockers and had them when I was about 12 and started my periods at 11. Lucky me)

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LaurieFairyCake · 12/05/2011 20:15

Ok but some of the girls will be turning ten.

It's not nice but it's just them becoming (unfortunately) self conscious. At ten dd wanted to hide her erect nipples and breast buds so I bought lots of racer back crop tops from m&s, think they started at age 8?

She still wears them, they go up to 16 and I've bought her some pretty bras (also m&s) too, even though she still has zero breasts at almost 13.

menopausemum · 12/05/2011 20:17

I suggest mum talks to the school, if it was my child I would seriously think about moving her. I agree with you, it awful

saffy85 · 12/05/2011 20:19

It's sad that your GD has been teased about this it is a silly thing for others to make fun of her about. However, this has nothing to do with the other girls being "chavs". Girls have been teasing eachother about their bodies and general image since the dawn of time. Some never grow out of it. Look at some of those articles in the DM or similar: "Big Brother contestant piles on pounds, suffers from cellulite and is wearing an outfit that makes her look like a condom full of porridge". I bet most of those stories are by female journalists.

I am not looking forward to my DD reaching this age there seems to be so much pressure to grow up too quickly these days, especially for girls.

BlueFergie · 12/05/2011 20:23

At that age they all want to be the same. Probably a couple of the girls have started to develop and have got bras and then some others want them and ask their parents can they have them and parents agree. So the majority have them and start teasing the ones that don't. Its just what they do at that age.
I was a late developer and my mum still got me a bra when my peers were getting them because it is a big deal to girls at that age that they not be left behind. I think she was right. i don't think 9/ 10 is ridiculously young to start wearing bras and I certainly don't think the girls view them as 'sexual' things just part of growing up and an important step to them.

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