To NOT want to be videoed

[IhateMarlo]

It?s a work thing. A videoed goodbye for one of the very senior managers.
Now personally I think I am being a bit petty, I have only met the person once and a lot of their decisions have affected myself and my colleagues adversely (Now I appreciate that sometimes hard decisions have to be made, but some of these were biased in favour of ?their? old team rather than good business sense), so in other words I have no tender feelings for them.
There is a script and it?s very touchy feely, not my style at all
The scrip has to be followed no ad-lib.
And the biggie, I?ve been told I have to do it, red rag to a bull as far as I?m concerned. I understand there are things in this world that you have to do/not do but I don?t see this as one.

And more to the point this is a company where if we take photos of social events they can not be shared without getting written permission from each person in the pic, but they?re telling me I have to allow myself to be on video

So AIBU so say sod off (but in polite work language: I do not feel happy to participate in this, and see nothing in my contract that compels me to do so blah blah)?

Or am I being petty??

you are not being petty at all. i would never agree to something like that at all

YANBU and I would pull a sickie on the day they did it just to piss em off. God I am a rubbish employee.

It's a strange thing to ask of people and I'm sure you won't be the only one who's not happy.

You will have to tell them that being videoed steals your soul. I wouldn't do it either.

YANBU at all. Permission is required for any appearance on a video, say no. Its your right.

And really, who in their right mind would want a videod goodbye from people they know don't much like them? Silly idea.

Stick to your guns. If you're called a killjoy or spoilsport, take it as a compliment!

YANBU. I would refuse too. How can they make you?

YANBU I wouldn't do that either, and chances are you're probably not the only one who's uncomfortable with it, I'd ask around - if there's a group of you who don't want to participate the management might be more understanding and cooperative.

YANBU and I would refuse on the ground that it sounds utterkly wanky

You could always fluff your lines repeatedly with a few Freudian slips / insults / expletives as appropriate so that they get fed up and excuse you without you having to make a proper stand but being passive aggressive-ish?

Aldiwhore is right!

Just point blank refuse, I'd like to see them try to bring up the part in your contract where it says you're obliged to appear in synchophantic (sp?) arselicking cockknockkery like this!

Argh! I HATE office brown-noses!!!

Or, you could read your part like , and claim you can't help it. That would be very funny.

You get the idea anyway- I'm watching the whole clip now, and some of it is rather knobbish. But you want that tone of voice.

I was going to say YABU until I read that you had been told to do it and you didn't much like the guy anyway. So YANBU. I doubt very much that this is covered in your employment contract, expressly or impliedly, and while some people might choose to do it so as not to make waves, its clearly outwith your normal employment duties.

I do think some employers are using the recession threat to jobs in order to act unreasonably.

Lol @ Bitoffun! "It's been so nice working with you and we're all really going to miss you."

I'd just pull a sickie on the day I'm afraid

I would tempted to just say the line...'aye, go on, fuck off, see if I care'.

YANBU

YANBU. I was going to suggest saying it in a really flat monotone and moving your head like you're reading off a script. Or something else that makes it unusable like special Pat Butcher earrings and eyeshadow? Wonky lipstick? There's something about Mary hair?

Seriously I'd say that as it's not part of your job description and does not add any value to the organisation you will not be taking part. I'd maybe also book an off-site/client meeting in for the allotted time but if that's not possible I'd go and get my fillings done or have a GP check up.

YANBU. Pulling a sickie or having a discussion about it is unnecessary though. A simple "No" will suffice. After all, what are they going to do.... force you in front of a camera at gunpoint?

YANBU, that is just plain wierd, who came up with the idea? I can't imagine your fellow workers are cock a hoop at having to take part in such a farce either?

Who has told you that you have to do it? I wouldn't imagine anyone can force you to do something so ridiculous against your will.

I would go via your line manager or HR and ask them what part of your contractual obligations compels you to take part. Get union advice first.

Otherwise you could turn up in a t-shirt printed with " They made me say it " and see whether anyone notices ...

YANBU, I wouldn't do it, and I would stick by my guns in refusing to do it.

i have been told that i have to have my photo taken so they can be displayed on a board not an id badge but a photo any tom dick or harry can see [i work in nhs] i said noway [put a lot of weight on since having my children dont feel great about my appearance] i was told i had no option however my union seem to think i do and itsan invasion of personal space i,m sticking to my guns as are half my collegues

Oh I only went to get a bite of lunch. . .
Had decided that I wasn't going to do it even if I was been petty.
So will carry on practicing ?No is a full sentence?, as has been said what can they do?
It ain?t in my contract and they know that I?m the type that would kick off if they tried anything, will let you know how it goes

Oh

Was hoping this was going to be a sex-tape thread.

Just to let anyone interested know what happened.
On Monday one of the admins was sent around to jolly us along to do the silly thing. (You know the type, very in to organising and thinks she knows better than everyone, basically a bully)
When she told me if I could go now I just said No, I?m busy now thank you.
So she tried to pin me down to a time, to which I just said I?m not happy to be involved, thanks you for asking. I?m very busy.
And carried on working.

There was some spluttering involved and she wandered off coming back about 10 minutes later saying I have spoken to XYZ, (her line manager, not mine)
We all need to do this. And if you?re feeling self conscious we can do it tomorrow so you can be ready. . .FFS!!!!

I was very proud of myself and asked politely, why would I be feeling self-conscious? [Bitch I?d even put on make-up that am, a rare occurrence]
As I said I?m not happy to be involved, if you have a problem with that I suggest you speak to my line manager.

I work in a large open plan office, so of course everyone was listening, and several people came up to me once Admin Monster (AD) was gone, cowards, saying Oh we don?t want to do it either, well tough fight your own battles. . .

Senior Line Manager comes up to me after lunch, ?Why have you set Admin Monster on me??
Explained the situation and that I am not happy to be involved, turns out there no have to about it, AD was the one who had come up with the idea of this video and was determined to make everyone participate and as so many of my colleagues are sheep, I was the first one to object, and this was the first the senior managers had heard about/ seen the email that stated that we had to be involved.
Apparently words have been had!!

So sorry no fireworks or sex tape

Excellent, very professionally handled!