EXP and I split up 2 months ago and I suspected that the female 'friend' he had been confiding his feelings with for months was more than just a friend.
Anyway, he picked DS up yesterday and informed me that he had been with this woman for 8 weeks (suspect day after I finally left the house). Thought it was about time I knew. Couldn't look me in the eye when he said it though.
I asked if DS had met her and he said yes, just once. Well I went mad and said I thought it was far too early in the relationship for this, that I hadn't even met the woman who was going to be spending time with my child, that this relationship he was in could end any time and it would just confuse DS as he gets older if he goes from woman to woman.
He said that if she was such a bad person he wouldn't be with her, and he 'knew' her and thought she should meet DS as she was his girlfriend. He said that he was in it long-term. (well tbh I thought after 10 years we would be in in long term!) Then said he had already met and spent time with her daughter. Well thats up to her what she does with her child. But I don't want that for my son yet.
I'm not sure if my outburst was due to jealousy or hurt or anger, or all of it.
Our arrangemets for access are pretty flexible at the moment. He will usually have him maybe 1/2 nights a week and a day at weekend.
AIBU to insist when he has DS, he has him alone, at least for a while yet? Surely it won't take time out from having time with his new squeeze?