to expect dh to help more with his mum staying for a week??!

[CocktailQueen]

I posted ages ago about dh's mum staying w us for the week - I am a sahm with 2 kids age 4 and 7. DS age 4 is at preschool 3 x morns per week and dd is obv at school full time. DH said he'd be around to help this week. So far he's left between 7 and 8am and got back between 6 and 7pm each day. He has washed up once - whereas I have cooked all meals, done driving kids around, entertained MIL.

I have been out every eve so far this week and will be out tomorrow eve too - all prearranged eves out, book club, choir, PTA meeting for God's sake, not exactly painting the town red! - and I had a pedi booked for Sat morn. DH got a real cob on when I mentioned both the PTA meeting this eve and the pedi - swore I hadn't mentioned them though they have both been booked for weeks, long before MIL's visit was arranged (she has rising damp in her house and is here while builders work on the house).

Gah gah. It was me who suggested she come here this week as I didn't like the idea of her being at home in her room while builders work on the whole downstairs of her house... so why am I doing all the work and why is dh being so shitty when I hae prearranged things to go to in the eves, and I am with his mum all day???????????

Gah. Dh is so crap sometimes.

Yes I think if you are looking after her all day then it is only fair he looks after her in the evenings. I think it sounds a good idea for you to get out in the evenings. Keep you fresh for the next day. Even if you like your guest, a week is a long time.

From your info, my guess is that quite simply, your dh doesn't want to do any of the work involved in having a guest. However, as it is his mum, surely he just has to get on with it. Did he want her to come?

Maybe he doesn't want to hang out with his mum? I think YABU as it was your idea to invite her.