When my current DP tells me about his past I can't help but cringe, he sounds like the kind of person me and my ex used to laugh about.
Some of the things he's told me about him and his ex wife are:
They decided to have a baby 3 months after knowing each other so that they'd find it easier to get a house with the council.
They got into a lot of debt so thought they may as well carry on getting debt as it was all going to end up being written off in bankrupcy anyway
They decided fostering was a good way to make some extra money so actually went through the process up until the visit from SS at which point they pulled out and realised it maybe wasn't such a great idea after all
Their marriage consisted of a quick ceromony at the local council estate church with no guests, no reception and a simple disposable camera for the photos as it was "cheaper that way"
They decided to get their daughter christened so she could go to the catholic school
The thing is, as he tells me about their past it seems it was years of scamming, money scraping, stupid ideas and half baked ideas and sometimes I still see some of this stuff in him now. For instance I found a box of football cards in the loft. His daughter shouted "oh no! are we doing the football card thing again dad?" he shushed her but I later found out he and his dd used to sit opening packets and packets of football cards, taking out the special ones and selling them at car boot sales for something like 50p profit.
When I hear this stuff I can't thinking that they sound like a family of saddos! (not the dd obviously, its not her fault). AIBU? it's making me question us being together tbh and I know it sounds shallow