Is this wrong? Go on make me into a reasonable person again.

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

Last night OH got home from work about 11.30pm. I heard his car then I heard him honking his horn. This is very unlike him because he is a responsible sort of person and doesnt make a lot of noise when he comes home.

So I look out the window and some chump has parked half way in his disabled parking space. at the end of his space the neighbours have parked their old trailer thingy for years so its blocked off that end.

OH had to spend ages shunting the car in and out of half a space and damaged the bumper.

OH is not precious about this space. He never plays the 'disabilty card', he doesnt rant and rave if people park in it when he isnt here IYSWIM. Even I try not to get het up about it.

But his legs are really bad at the moment. He is dragging one of his legs badly and is pretty unstable (legwise not head wise!) atm.

So when I went to drop DS off at nursery I came back and have just about blocked the offending car in. There IS a bit of space at the front but the driver will have to make good use of his/her power steering and it could take some time.

I can see the car as it is directly outside my front window so if the driver is a brain surgeon or member of the SAS and has to get out quickly I am very happy to move my car, or if they knock on my door and ask me I will move it.

OH has left a polite note on the car asking them not to park there too.

I know its all a bit passive aggressive but I dont know who the car belongs to and there were plenty of spaces a bit further up the road last night.

Just writing that down has calmed me a bit. I know I shouldnt get narked but I worry about OH. If he falls over

Sorry, no can do! I don't think you were unreasonable in the first place, so you don't need rehabilitating in my view!

well i think you're being as reasonable as possible!!

yanbu at all.

it is really low to park in a disabled spot if you are not disabled.

good on you!

Nope, not unreasonable. Tits! Hope they come and apologise. I'd park a bit closer of you can, not letting them have any space to get out, and leave your address on their windscreen. In blood. (or is that taking things too far?!)

YANBU Hopefully it'll make them think twice.

hahaha Loopy! I was going to back right up to the bumper but I thought I would just leave them enough room to make it interesting. Brand new car too so I doubt they want to damage it on my ancient old banger!

Come on MN! Isnt anyone going to suggest the driver might have had a toddler in the car when they parked so really that was almost the same as being disabled

There's never any excuse to park in a disabled space. Your poor dh. I have fibromyalgia and have days where I struggle, but as I don't have a blue badge then I will just struggle as there are people who need them more than me.

I think you have acted perfectly reasonably! I'd like to think that the person who has parked in the disabled space will have a pang of conscience when they read the note, but somehow I doubt it.

I knew this would happen. I cant get on with anything because I keep looking out the window!

Gahh! this is why we try and be laid back about it, it becomes a pita otherwise.

So it is their fault I am MNing and not doing the housework/

Bastards!

You know YANBU. I would probably possibly let a teeny tiny bit of air out of each tyre just for good measure.

Well honking the horn at 11.30pm isn't going to win you friends... couldn't you have nipped out to the offending neighbour, woken them up to move their trailor instead of your DH damaging the car?

I am holding back a little because it is possible they didnt notice.

YABU..... For being far too reasonable

They are being selfish twunts

Don't let the tyres down as you need them to move!
Is it a criminal or a civil offence to park in a disabled bay? Who would you report them to, the police or your local council. Because I would be tempted to have quite strong words with them and threaten to report them if they moan at you for blocking them inl.

Unless the person who parked there is also disabled, YANBU.

As an aside, would your neighbours be willing to shuffle their trailer up a bit so there's more space at that end? Obv they shouldn't have to do this, but it might make your life easier if this happens again..

Just make sure they don't damage your car getting out!

I would have done exactly what you did.

Oh for goodness sake woman get out there and block them in properly!

Dont get me started on the flippen trailer! Its an old burger van that they though would make them rich. They used if for a few weeks. Its been there for about 4 years now. Rotting away.

Anyone with a badge can park in OH's space. We dont live on a busy road or shopping street so there is no reason why anyone would even if they did have one. We wouldnt use someone's personal space, its common sense isnt it?

I really think they are going to be more worried about damaging their shiney new car tbh. I dont recognise it but it has been there all night so someone who is staying here.

We live in a close, nowhere near tube or anything you would want to park near IYSWIM. You only come down our road if you are visiting someone.

Hahaha

Just watched as they came over (from the other side fo the bloody greent!) and had to get their car out of the space. Took them ages and one had to get out to direct the driver.

Thhhhrrrrrrruuuuupppp to you toss heads.

I never thought of having to move a car with deflated tyres.
Can you get two old chairs and a length of wood to put into your space. The man over the road to us in Essex used to do that. I took great delight in moving them so I could park there.

btw, using a disabled place without a disabled badge is an offense. Your local council will have a hot line to call, and they will (eventually) send a parking warden round. Call up and get the number so you have it ready when you next need it.

Does the trailer have road tax? if not I don't think it's supposed to be on the road and you could phone up and get it towed if they don't remove it.

YANBU assuming the other driver wasn't a blue badge holder too. they probably wont park they again as they had so much trouble getting out. hopefully!

Agree with those above - you are being more reasonable than should possibly be expected!

Thanks all.

OH was about to call the council when they moved the car. I really dont want this to become an issue for us to stress about. We are pretty lucky. Its only been misused a few times. Twice was in the snow, once was the icecream van (she got the sharp end of my tongue!) and once was OH's twatty mate. There have been only a few ones like today - the ones that really pee me off.

The woman across the road 'joked' that she would send her OH to park in our space (she is quite competative re disability ). I told her he was entitled but it would be a bit counterproductive as he would have to haul himself over four steep kerbs and a muddy green. She agreed looked pissed off

why did she say that OP?