...To be ecstatic that my DP is finally divorcecd?

[aurynne]

The divorce papers arrived yesterday, he is now officially a single man! I did not think I would mind that much, but it did sting to think that he was still "someone else's husband", even though separated. I don't want to jump and dance, because he is still hurt that his previous marriage did not work, and the divorce papers are a bit of a reminder of those horrible years... but inside, I am ecstatic! Not only that he is not a husband to an abusive, cruel woman that cheated on him repeatedly and treated him like shit for years... But also that I can look at him now and now that he is "free", "available". That he is "only mine".

And can also dream... :)

...And I should also re-read my posts before sending them...

"divorcED"
"look at him now and KNOW"

Sorry for the typos...

Are you with my ex not so DH?

His gf is pushing our divorce through like weddings are going to soon become illegal

I think YANBU and your feelings are natural. Don't dwell on it too much with him though as he is bound to have mixed emotions.

I also look forward to the day that my dp gets divorced, we have been together 7 years and have 4 dd's but it would nice to know that he is free to marry me if we wanted :)

i am looking forward to my bf getting divorce through more for him than my sake its a bit of a yoke round his neck having to have so much contact with his ex via mediation etc, she is a bit of a harpy. promised myself why i got into relationship with him i would say thing like that, 2 sides to every story etc, but man that woman can be mean. so feel slightly less bad about it.

YANBU - i felt like this when now DH's divorce came through. We actually had a few tears together, and he asked if it made me happy - and I told him happy wasn't quite the right word. It was a relief to have a line drawn under that part of his life, and time for us to move on from it and so we arranged our wedding.

It wouldn't have felt right to celebrate the failure of a marriage, one which he entered with every intention of keeping the promises he made. Unfortunately his ex decided not to keep up her side of the bargain.....

unsurevalentine... if you cheated repeatedly on your exDH for years, were physically and psychologically abusive towards him, tried to drive a wedge between him and his sister, stopped taking the pill and fell pregnant on purpose without his knowledge, and then blamed him for your spontaneous miscarriage, and are still living with the last bloke you cheated on him with... then it might be you.

queenrollo, I have your exact feelings... a big relief, but wouldn't want to "celebrate", as my DP really did love this woman, suffered immensely through the marriage and still feels the breaking of the marriage was a "failure", as he took his vows by heart.

Thanks for your answers, I feel this is the only place I can express my feelings without hurting anyone :)