to not know where the feck to put this thread

[boobellina]

I would really quite like to start a thread about my inability to conceive a wee brother or sister for my DD but in my inebriated state I am quite flumuxed(ooo not sure that is the spelling i meant) as to where such a thread would or would not be positioned.

I would ask for advice but I might be asleep by the time I have found the way of making my firstest ever starting a post live.

Conception, I would think.

Good luck!

not a case of good luck, more a case of good bye hope hello only child!

How old is dd, how long have you been ttc, and do you regularly have sex during your most fertile times?

have just realised am being very cryptic. DD is adopted and the light of my life but has been asking for a baby sister for the past forever. We will never adopt again - had lots of issues the last time and have just completed out 4th round of IUI with donor sperm and I am looking for a bit of 'we didn't plan to have an only child but it turned out alright' chat

sorry izzy cross post sex during fertile points is very good and always a welcome distraction. But unlikely to result in siblings due to husbands azoospermia - he does not produce sperm.

Sorry OP, I wasn't trying to be fascetious with my good luck comment. Your second post makes your situation clearer. I am very sorry that your IUI treatment hasn't worked.

I'm sorry that it didn't work. :( And that adoption won't be possible this time around.

There are lots of benefits to having an only child...

I'm so sorry if that came out wrong, but since you said you were looking for chat about that...

Hi boo. I am sorry you can't give your daughter a sibling, but she will be fine. My dh is an only child, and he had a happy childhood, and life.

I wouldn't rule out adoption though, if this is something important to you, regardless of what you may have to go through. It could be very different this time around.
I went through periods of wishing I had 10 siblings to wishing I were an only child. To being a hard working sister raising all her sibs because the parents had died, to being a pampered young lady at a boarding school, that was like a camp where high jinx ensued. Based on whatever fictional book I was reading at the time.
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Hi boobellina, sorry things are not happening as you would like them to. Have you thought about fostering?

Thank you for the lovely replies. I tend to be a never say never kinda gal so would be loath to rule out adoption again but dh is rather clearer on the issue and has sworn never and even if I managed by some miracle to change his mind he would never manage to be polite to any poor social worker let alone civil enough to complete a home study. DD's adoption was a fucking nightmare and social work cocked up several things on a spectacular level that very nearly resulted in us loosing DD.

I think fostering is an amazing thing to do for any family but I couldn't do it to DD. The poor sausage is desperate for a wee brother or sister and I'm not going to tell her she can have one but not forever and deal with the fall out when a foster child I'd returned to their own family or move to an adoptive placement.

This iui really was our shot and I can't articulate how broken I feel.

Sorry - is returned

Oh boobellina I am so sorry to hear of your troubles :(

Could you go through a different agency? The adoption system there confuses me, sorry!