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to expect DH to miss the FA cup final

19 replies

Mummywalsh · 10/05/2011 22:28

Have had plans to visit DCs Godfather is Sussex (we live in N.London and don't drive so 3hours there, then 3hours back on public transport) this coming Saturday, which DH has just realised is the FA cup final, he doesn't support either team but does love football, now he won't come with which means I either won't be able to go or he'll miss seeing one of his GC. Not feeling 3 under 3 for that journey.

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RobF · 10/05/2011 22:31

Is the FA Cup final really that big a deal in 2011? I know it used to be big but that was when it was the only club game shown live on TV, now there are games on near enough every day. If he doesn't support either Man City or Stoke, he is being very unreasonable.

squeakytoy · 10/05/2011 22:33

If you live in North London, wont public transport be hellish on FA cup day anyway?

pozzled · 10/05/2011 22:36

YANBU. If it were his team playing I'd understand, but otherwise he should still go with you. If it were really important to him he should have had the date noted ages ago before you made arrangements to visit someone. Can you find a compromise- what do you plan to do with DC's godfather? Could your DH disappear into another room for the game, listen on the radio or something?

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Mummywalsh · 10/05/2011 22:36

I know Shock So he ibu not me, sorry to ask you to settle a domestic

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PumpkinBones · 10/05/2011 22:43

I'd rathern watch the FA Cup final then spend 6 hours on public transport with 3 under 3's. How often do you visit the godfather? I'd be tempted to just choose the easiest child to travel with. Grin

joydivisionovengloves · 10/05/2011 22:44

YABU. I'm glad someone still values the FA Cup Final. i wouldn't go out anywhere that day if there wasn't a telly. Sorry!

cat64 · 10/05/2011 22:50

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Heifer · 10/05/2011 22:53

You may well find that the Godfather wants to watch the FA Cup also, but doesn't know how to tell you Grin

Personally I wouldn't want to miss a big match, neither would I want to travle across London with 3 children, so I would postpone until another weekend.

ilovesooty · 10/05/2011 22:58

No way would I be travelling to visit relatives on the day of the Cup Final. Surely you can go another weekend?

squeakytoy · 10/05/2011 23:04

Wembley is North London Cat.

cat64 · 10/05/2011 23:25

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Portofino · 10/05/2011 23:29

After once booking a holiday in deepest Normandy with no tv during the European Cup I have learnt not to mess with the football. Grin No matter that he doesn't support one of the teams, it is still a big footie occasion.

southofthethames · 10/05/2011 23:41

That's a bit unfair of your DH. Here's the perfect plan: he helps you bring all three kids to Godfather's place. Then he goes off to the nearest pub which is showing the Cup Final. When match is over, he comes to collect you all and take you home. The FA Cup Final is shown all over the country. Sussex is not in the sticks, they have plenty of places showing it. Might even suggest your DH rents a car for that day - providing you have enough car seats/booster seats for the kids. N London to Sussex is v fast around the M25 if you leave early enough on Sat. (am assuming he drives? or you do?) If we can arrange to watch Six Nations Rugby in Marrakech (on tv) on holiday, you can do it for the FA Cup in the next county!!

You didn't say East or West Sussex - but anyway, type the word "pubs in" and add the town your DCs' GF is in and you can get a list of pubs and their phone numbers. Then check where they are in relation to the home on Google Maps. Then ring them to find out which one has a tv and is showing the FA Cup. This paragraph is your DH's job to do, not yours. Of course if the kids' GF is a football fan, your DH could ring and ask him if he's going to have it on his tv (if you are close enough for GF not to be insulted at the suggestion!)

Hang on - I am assuming you mean he is watching it on tv, not that he has tickets to the Final at the stadium itself and forgot the date (as if he'd forget??!) If he has tickets, then best to postpone. Tickets are pricey.

JeremyKylesPetProject · 10/05/2011 23:51

Whether it was my dh team or not (it is - Man City) there is no way he'd not watch it. He's a huge fan. I wouldn't arrange something like that on a Final weekend. He'd refuse anyway. Personally I'd rearrange. It IS an important game. Its history in the making if City win. A lot of people want to witness it.

Indaba · 10/05/2011 23:55

I love big sporting events. The excitement is fab. I'd schedule around it.

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Mummywalsh · 11/05/2011 00:10

Thanks southofthethames I hadn't thought of that, GF won't be watching though, but DH can nip to the pub.
Squeaky and Cat Wembley is in West London or North West London to be really... ykwim, we live in rural Enfield (DHs term not mine) but the travelling should be okay... Should be well out of London by 10am.
DH is amused by our abbreviations and asked whats DMs (Dear mothers according to him) answered, he thought it was hilarious that I asked you guys - cheeky sod.
Coming to the conclusion I'll be going it alone, P&T with footwell for 2yo it is
:(

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elphabadefiesgravity · 11/05/2011 00:14

YABU if it is something he normally watches.

I am working but my parents, dd and ds will be there. However my Dad would watch it whatever team it was.

sayithowitis · 11/05/2011 00:16

Sorry, my DH does not suport either team but does love football. I can think of only two things that would drag him away from the FA Cup Final, whoever is playing, and that would be a bereavement ( of close family member) or if I was about to give birth. Actually, scrub the last one, when we were ttc, way back when, it was carefully timed so that barring an emergency/very prem birth, there would be no possibility of me giving birth during May!

Having been to a couple of FA Cup Finals in the dim and distant past, there is also no way I would want to travel from N London to Sussex on public transport with 3 young children on FA Cup Day. With or without DH.

Can you re-arrange your trip?

cantspel · 11/05/2011 08:55

We live in sussex and will be doing the reverse journey on public transport to attend the match.
We dont support either man city or stoke but it is a cup final.

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