To expect my son to let me know he got back ok?!

[Conserve]

He went abroad on holiday with his girlfriend and said he'd be back last friday. I havent seen or heard from him since he went. He does not have his mobile and I only know the girls first name - not met her yet.

He lives with me, he is 26yrs old. He is a big boy and can do what he wants but all the same am I expecting too much for him to say I'm back, landed safely or whatever? I am getting both worried and a bit annoyed now.

YANBU - it is common courtesy to let someone know roughly when you are in/out if you are sharing a house.

I still let my mum know when we are home from holiday and I haven't lived there for 13 years. she worries endlessly

Maybe he stayed abroad and is still hungover.

He's a big boy now.

yanbu its only a phone call, where is he stayin then ,do you assume he is at hers?

YANBU! I'm 26, my mum lives in a different country, and I still let her know I've got back ok from visiting friends in different cities...

I do assume he is with her -possibly staying at hers. She lives with her parents but dont know exactly where but its in the same area as me. (He does not give out a lot of details).

Could they have extended the holiday and changed the flight back?
She works, he's at Uni.

He must be ok mustnt he. No news is good news, so the saying goes.?

YANU to be concerned, and your annoyance is only to be expected as your son is being/has been discourteous.

Do you know where your son went on holiday and whether it was a package tour?

If your son is employed, do you know when he's due back at work?

Maybe he returned last Friday and has stayed over with his girlfriend - are you in contact with any of his friends who may know more, or may have heard from him?

If it was a package tour it's unlikely they would have been able to alter their return date from the resort without good reason.

In any event, unless you are travelling with an open return (i.e return date not booked before departure), it can cost a considerable sum to alter the date of a return flight.

Has he finished Uni for the summer?

RESULT!! I am so relieved.

I spent these past 4 days, expecting, wondering and then worrying to myself.

I emailed his friend when I got home from work tonight and he facebooked ds. Son just phoned me, all chilled and chatty like everythings ok. I will have a gentle word with him when I see him though!

Thanks to all of you for taking the time to respond and for your concern and helpful suggestions.

glad all is okay.