I UP/AP whatever you want to call it with my 14 mo ds. Essentially, all it means for us is that we don't leave him to cry, co sleep and still bf. Dh was a bit 
about it all at first but he soon came round. We are all happy.
Mil is coming down this week and she has been bugging us for ages to babysit. She asked what time he goes to bed and I told her that he doesn't have a routine, he just goes when he's tired or when I or my dh goes up.
She was horrified and said that she will be sorting his sleeping habits out when she comes down. She said we need to preserver with getting him in his own room. She told dh that she will leave him to cry if need be. she has basically rubbished me to dh's brother and his wife and said I am too flaky with ds.
To make matters worse, my sister is going into hospital in two weeks for spinal surgery and I am trying to get her ds to bf from me (posted a thread about this on breastfeeding/bottle-feeding forum a couple of weeks ago) so god knows what she is going to think about that.
I now don't want her to babysit at all ever, if she can't respect how we parent ds. I am so mad grrrrr.