to think his ex says 'jump' and he says 'how high?'

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aibu??

Dp and i been together 9 months now and are committed and happy. He has just started to get to know my DC and is proving to be great with them too. He has instigated this and he has pushed for commitment. Thats fine with me and makes me happy but I didn't want to push him into anything. We both came out of long relationships and have thr baggage that comes with ex'es. I see mine daily because of co parenting with DC, were friendly and amicable, however he sometimes makes inapropriate comments about me looking fit, or saying he still wants to have sex with me! DP knows about this and it does annoy him.

DP is in regularly (weekly) contact with his ex as they still own the house he lives in together and share pets. It seems amicable and friendly afer a slightly more dramatic split than mine. I honestly don't think he still loves her or wants her back etc but..... if she needs a favour or he does they still turn to each other. E.g. she needed something form the shed at therir house and contacted him several times until he'd gone out of his way to find it for her. Yesterday he was in the pub for the football and she wanted something and he sorted that out for her again immediatley.... I don't get it?

Also he is usually brilliant, caring and supportive with me (recently had a medical issue and he was very caring) but occasionally when ive asked him to go slightly out of his way for me he has said no! aibu- or doesthis not even make sense.!

Do they have children together? What is he long-term plan for the house they own? Is he going to buy her out, who is currently paying the mortgage? It will be difficult for them to ever have a clean break if she continues to have a financial interest in the house and stores stuff there. Also, what is this business of sharing pets?!

no DC. Hopefully eventually she can buy him out. Both still pay mortgage. Vested interest in pets at both homes! They seem to have made a break but very keen to remain friends. I am with my exDH but we do have DC

I can sort of understand. My DP doesnt have anything to do with his ex as he said it was weird. However if anything happened to us he is still my best friend and I would still want contact as we also have a shared pet. Its quite common for this to happen if an animal lover however I would speak to him about saying yes to her and no to you. That part is not fair.

Maybe he realises he allowed his ex to be too reliant on him, and is wary of your relationship heading that way. She sounds a bit needy, and if he has always pandered to her, its probably an easier life to just get her sorted out and off his back when she has a problem that she expects him to deal with.