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To have expected wine?

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Happyhippychick · 08/05/2011 18:44

Have just been to a Christening party where tea, coffee, soft drinks and beer were served but not wine.

AIBU to have expected an alcoholic drink for the 'ladies' (I know women can drink beer, but I don't really like the taste and I don't really want a debate about who drinks what etc and in fact only men were drinking the beer) or for it to have been a completely non-alcoholic do?

I would have been happy to bring my own if cost was an issue but wasn't asked to. Plus towards the end some members of the mothers family were given glasses of wine but we were not offered any.... BTW I am not the big alky this thread makes me sound like (hmm actually maybe I am!!) Grin

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Sirzy · 08/05/2011 18:47

I think if alcohol is being offered then 2 options at least would be ideal but I wouldn't expect it


pjmama · 08/05/2011 18:48

No wine??!! How rude.


KittySpencer · 08/05/2011 18:50

YANBU - If alcohol is being served, I would expect there to be wine, more so than beer probably. Most people I know would (if not driving) have a glass of wine, not many would prefer beer.


SacreLao · 08/05/2011 18:51

I would have expected it also but no big deal. Besides I always take a bottle of wine with me to EVERY social occasion to make sure.

Not only is it a nice way to thank the host but means that I can have a nice drink :)


scottishmummy · 08/05/2011 18:52

you should have been good guest and taken your own
stop mumping


Strumpypumpy · 08/05/2011 18:55

As an aside to this I always bring wine for the host me, but wouldn't expect to for a christening, unless in someones home I guess. So if it was at a venue yanbu.
But the last christening I went to I was 12. So no wine then. My friends must all be heathens!


Happyhippychick · 08/05/2011 19:06

I would happily have taken my own, but in our circle it isn't expected for an event like this (my ds was christened recently and we spent over £150 on alcohol) that isn't really my point. When did it become the norm for the women to sit around drinking tea and the men to have beer? It's not the 1950s (or France) you know!

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NoahFence · 08/05/2011 19:07

Yep. I'd want booze. Nonin not an addict


squeakytoy · 08/05/2011 19:08

Plus towards the end some members of the mothers family were given glasses of wine but we were not offered any

Did you actually ask if there was any wine? They could have just forgotten to put it out if nobody had asked them I suppose.

Its a bit thoughtless to just have beer, I agree.


darleneoconnor · 08/05/2011 19:13

They served beer but not wine? How odd.
Was the person putting it on a beer drinker? Did they just not realise that other people dont like it?

TBH it does sound a bit sexist to offer a 'man's' alcoholic drink and for the only 'women's' drink available to be non-alcoholic. (I know lots of women drink beer btw)


TheMonster · 08/05/2011 19:14

YANBU. I would have left out of disgust.


pointydog · 08/05/2011 19:15

I wouldn't expect wine at an afternoon christening do. Not that I've ever been to one. So in that respect yabu. But I'd've been annoyed if others were being offered wine and I wasn't. No manners.


scarletfingernail · 08/05/2011 19:16

Seems a bit odd to offer beer but not wine. TBH I wouldn't have had any expectations though, people have different ideas.

Crack open a bottle now Smile


pointydog · 08/05/2011 19:16

Wine is expensive. Probably due to cost.


Happyhippychick · 08/05/2011 19:20

Did not ask about wine, as I did not want to get a reputation as the wine guzzling alky, which I am Wink. But after the wine was brought out for the family I was offered more tea [depressed, bring me wine NOW emoticon]

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