...for being disappointed?

[pugh]

Just had a short holiday. First for the year. DD 2 got some sort of bug halfway through and a nightmare with top tantrums. Waking everyone up at night. Friends we are away with are v understanding and of course say it has been no bother.

But I was so looking forward to a bit of a break. Halfway through pregnancy; both DH&me been working hard.

HOwever I really think this is more effort than it is worth. I would rather stay home with comforts. In fact: put her in nursery a couple of hours so DH and I can actually do things together.

And face it: once nr2 comes...won' t make it out the door.

I can' t blame DH. She is usually spirited and a delight. But full on toddler.She has been under the weather. My hormones are probably contributing. And knackered. And feeling sorry for myself. But what a f*cking waste of money&effort. And testing some (what is obviously very strong!) friendships. Even so: can' t see us going away gether again.

I know I am fortunate to even ahve afforded a wee trip etc etc. But I would rather be at work and next month or two is looking very busy.

Apologies for the moan.

Sympathies - I think holidays with children are really hard work - not sure what the answer is - it is getting a little easier now DS is 10 . I always get slightly irritated by those who say how lovely it is, all that 'family time' together .

sympathies..... i spend so much time looking forward to a holiday with the family and by the first day Im left thinking why are we even kidding ourselves that this will be fun!!

Sadly, it's often the way it is with little ones. Holidays for young children aren't particularly restful for adults.

It does get much easier though and for the last couple of years ours have been old enough to have a nice balance between time together and them being off playing whilst we have lots of relaxing time.

Cheers. Feel like a sh!t mum as I work and can;t seem to cope with a week of parenting/ generally sorry for self and a non coper/ guilty for thinking I would rather be at work.

And finally gutted as I don' t think a trip to see the family once new bubs is here (serious ££ and long haul) will be worth it.

Responses deeply appreciated as I don' t want to spoil DH' s week (which he also found stresful but managed some activities to make it very worth it). Ditto our mates have been so fab -hardly want to look ungrateful.

So maybe in 10 years or so we can try a holiday...relish the thought. And there was me thinking this might be pregnancy nr 2 of a possible 3?? Not at the moment!

YANBU. But tbh, the child won't fall sick on every holiday! We had one with ds1 aged 16 months and another with ds3 aged 11 months. The rest of them have been fab!

Totally agree! We have 2 dc 4 and 2 and holidays are never about relaxing, and dc1 can throw top tantrums when in the mood. Dh is used to spoiling and pandering to dc1 so dealing with tantrums is nigh on impossible. We just book holiday cottages and maj=ke sure they have stuff we need, like stair gates or just on one level so not trying to block stairs or racing after dc, and a sort f secure / fenced garden area so we can at least sit outside and just have a cup of tea and watch dc playing on grass rather than constatntly on watch!

Nightmare isn't it? I can't see myself being brave enough to go abrioad, at least in holidat cottages they go bed at normal time and me and dh can veg on sofa with wine and some nice tea! I'm sure some people, somewher, have wilder holidays than us!

Our first holiday with DS was to Cornwall for three days staying in a B&B when he was 9mo.

He cut three teeth and had a chest infection. I left the Calpol in the pub at lunchtime and had to drive round to find a late night chemist. It rained.

TBH he is 4 now and we have DD and we haven't been on holiday since. Yep, about 10 years I reckon too.

Woo hoo! I am now almost smiling and imagining a G&T. Thank you. Just wanted to know it isn' t just me. These mates go camping etc etc with heir wee one and I look/ feel useless that even self catering seems a drag.

Nice thing of going away with folk is you can at least 'dilute' the childcare/ toddler entertaining. Defo can' t complain to my mom as she would have no idea: they always had 'help' in some for or another when we were wee and on holidays.

If it is 'just' DH and me and DD (and hopefully bubs 2) then it would be like home groundhog day except with cabin fever/ no home comforts and no-one to 'do stuff with' (aka walking/cycling. as one would have to do things alone while other does chidlcare.

And face it: after nr 2 I won' t be going running as my pelvic floor seems to be f*cked alread!

Note: I am getting it all out! Sorry if TMI.

I took baby on first holiday at 5 months no complaints :) loved the last two aswell but wouldnt like it if she was poorly :(