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To be really cross with all my friends for different reasons and now feel unloved and alone

58 replies

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:32

Even though it's me not speaking to them?

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miniwedge · 06/05/2011 19:48

Ps: know exactly what you mean, am ultimate lonely ice queen

Rhinestone · 06/05/2011 19:48

I am sympathetic to your upset! People are annoying sometimes and those of us who are superior beings have to bear the brunt! Grin You did a lovely thing re the Easter Egg hunt and your friend is a silly moo.

Re the hypocritical friend, can you pick on one of her life choices tonight and give her a taste of her own medicine use it to point out that everyone makes different decisions in life.

If you're still upset I'll be your friend. Let's pick a lesser person at random and give them a wedgie!

KurriKurri · 06/05/2011 19:48

have you got an outfit to wear tonight that shrieks 'I am full of froideur'?

totally agree with miniwedge on the bastard thing

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:48

Not yet, Orm. Just the one glass, just enough to inch the floodgates open...

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Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:49

You are all v kind, much nicer than the rl BASTARDS.

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Francagoestohollywood · 06/05/2011 19:51

Oh sympathies. Today I had an argument with a dear friend too. I was horrible. But I felt hurt by a few things. I am a moody cow.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 06/05/2011 19:51

Well you can't be that cross with them if you're going out with them tonight, can you? Confused

Egg woman would get 6 months of silence from me and education woman would get a year... Grin

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:52

I am not going out by choice. Circs have conspired. Plus, if they don't see me all frosty, it will take even longer for them to realise the depth and error of their offences.

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thelittlefriend · 06/05/2011 19:53

Hully you really sound like someone I know in RL, and if you are then you're hilarious and I love you. If not, then you're still hilarious and I love your posts. Have a Wine for me Wink

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:54

Thank you that is v kind. I have checked your profile - you are much too young to know me. Be glad.

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bibbitybobbityhat · 06/05/2011 19:58

Trust me.

First, you need to send them all to Coventry.

Then buy yourself a 6 pack of Special Brew and a second hand well worn sleeping bag.

Settle down in the doorway of whichever drinking establishment they are going to and get stuck in to your stash.

Stay there for the next 40 years.

That'll teach em.

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 19:59

That's not my favourite idea..

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bibbitybobbityhat · 06/05/2011 20:01

Oh well effoff then.

Hullygully · 06/05/2011 20:02

Ok. I am off to don blue and spiky clothes and sit in the freezer in preparation. Thank you to those that were sympathetic.

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bibbitybobbityhat · 06/05/2011 20:05

Please report back. Preferably when you come back inebriated and either incandescent or full of lurve (depending on how it goes) before you go to bed.

heliumballoons · 06/05/2011 20:08

Was not expecting it to be you hully when I read the title. Shock

I know nothing about what education you have chosen - but surely it's your choice? And not turning up to egg hunt is off.

I would have done the needy thing and text/rand about where friend was though. Blush

DollyTwat · 06/05/2011 20:18

Hully my best friend really upset me this week, made a very nasty remark which indirectly called me a crap parent

So I told all my twitter friends and they made me feel loads better, then she came round and apologised.

So you have to tell them. Get pissed first though

QuintessentialPains · 06/05/2011 20:23

"I can't make it clear, it lacks dignity. I need them to realise that I am like an iceberg and it's their fault."

You should communicate with them as you post.

"Arse!"
"Feckers!"
"tit!"

and nothing else, meaningfully throughout the evening.

Wink
Hullygully · 06/05/2011 20:54

I am about to go out. I feel a little mellower (the wonders of fizzy wine). A non-doghouse friend has mollified me a little by explaining the easter egg one's difficulties.

I go forth dripping round the frozen edges.

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chipmonkey · 06/05/2011 20:59

I could be the Easter egg one. I have holes in my brain where there should be organisational skills.Sad

QuintessentialPains · 06/05/2011 21:02

I am glad you feel mellower. Smile

Must be upsetting, to be upset with ones friends, and not talk to them, and they dont even realize, AND to top it out, you are going out with them.

Have a grand night!

animula · 06/05/2011 21:06

Hullygully - I think your post clashed with bedtimes all over the land - hence lack of sympathy. And now you're going out, so won't see this. Oh well.

Don't feel unloved - this sort of stuff is always about things that are going on in other people's lives, rather than being genuinely a lack of love or care from them towards you.

Something is probably up in egg-person's life. School-person is probably tense about something in her child's school. Taking people to task about their school choice is a big social no no, so it was off, but alcohol + secret sadness.

Enjoy being an iceberg for a bit - I'm sure you've earned your right to have a sulk once in a while. But don't think you're not loved/respected by your friends - it's very unlikely to be the case. Not after all these years, anyway.

If it is a sign from your soul to yourself that you want to re-arrange your boundaries, or change relationships, or make changes in the way you deal with the world - think about it, and move slowly. although impulsive acts don't always end in disaster, I'm always an advocate of the ... erm ... aesthetic poise and accomplishment of the tortoise. there's a lot to be said for doing things slowly and in a considered way.

Have a lovely night.

I'm sure you will.

bibbitybobbityhat · 06/05/2011 21:36

What a fantastic post animula. Really. All your innate intelligence and maturity shines through.

How marvellous is Mumsnet that you might stumble across someone who can give you advice/support such as this, Hully dear. I do hope you had a lovely evening. Please update when you can.

SpawnChorus · 06/05/2011 21:44

Oh Hully. I wish you were my friend. The thought of you politely re-hinding your Easter eggs is just too poignant.

I think the lesson to be learnt here is to be like me and have NO friends.

In the words of Simon and Garfunkel:

I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

HTH

KurriKurri · 06/05/2011 21:46

I completely agree with animula, especially the stuff about tortoises - spot on!

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