OK, threats of violence towards a child aren't big or clever, but AAAARGH. She is sending me batty.
Superbrat is 8. She is an only child, and she is spoilt rotten by her mother and grandparents.
She does not understand the meaning of NO.
I've heard her monumental tantrums through the walls for years. Now she is playing out with my kids and I get to see them in person, and the petty reasons behind them.
These are not normal tantrums. They are full on screaming and can go on for over an hour.
Example: A boy from up the street bought himself an ice-cream from the van. She stomped up and asked for it. He said no, she insisted, he said no, she started begging, he said no and she had a screaming fit in the street.
She's trying to get my DD who is a similar age to to something I don't want her involved with. I say no. My DD says OK then (she's not bothered anyway). Superbrat comes knocking on the door. Why can't she do it? I give valid reasons, she says she has to do it. I say no and she gives me the "arms folded dirty look". I explain that we (DD's dad and I) have made our decision and that is that. Superbrat cries, and stomps off. She spends the next 2 hours trying to convince my DD to lie to me and do it anyway.
She will walk off with other kids things because she wants them, and goes mad if the kid wants it back. She was caught stealing something (not in my house, but another neighbours) by my eldest. She denied it and ran home. Item was found in her house.
She's knocking on our door morning,noon and night. We've asked her not to call before a certain time, but she can apparently do what she likes. (I am V. pregnant, and am quite partial to a weekend lie in. I don't like being woken at 7). She knows we are in and won't stop knocking til someone answers.
Her mum can't see a problem. She thinks her daughter is "spirited" and "full of life". I think she is just happy to get a break from her.
Her grandparents indulge her every whim
So, come on then wise people. How do you cope with someone else's child who has no respect or understanding? And, AIBU to want to throttle her?
(oh this is quite long, sorry but I could write pages about it)
AIBU?
to want to throttle a neighbours bratty child?
AlmightyCitrus · 06/05/2011 18:46
YANBU. As a fellow heavily pregnant person who needs her shut eye I'd provide an alibi if you gave in to your urge and actually did do away with her. I'm kidding about the last part. Maybe
I'd be having serious words with her mother about coming round your house at stupid o'clock in the morning or other inconvenient times. If she comes round at 7am I'd be round at theirs at 6am the next morning, banging on the door 
As for the tantrums or the rude questions about your parenting decisions I wouldn't entertain it. Just slam shut the door politely on her the minute she gives you evils and gets arsey. Cheeky little moo.
The Teacher Death Glare is what she does to you if you refuse her!
And thank you saffy....I'll let you know if I need to take you up on the offer
I do feel a bit sorry for her. She's an only child so probably gets a bit lonely (I'm an only one, but lonely or not I was never anything like her), but I can understand why she has so few friends.
I'll leave the early morning door answering duty to DH. It takes me 20 minutes to get my legs over the side of the bed these days!
You say you are very pregnant. Could you use that, i.e. behave abominably yourself and blame it on the hormones afterwards ?
Every time she came to my door, I would go to her door and complain to her mother. Loudly. Rudely. I'd use the word brat. I'd point out tantrums at age 8 are abnormal. I'd ask her what kind of an adult she's going to be and how unhappy a life she's going to have if she doesn't change. I'd tell the mother it's all her fault and she's a terrible mother. And then burst into tears and flounce back to my own house, slamming the door for good measure.
And then blame it on the hormones .
Actually what others have said. I wouldn't want this nasty little horror anywhere near my kids.
As for her mother, why do some parents do this? When their child's behaviour stinks, act all calmly and when lets face it, they should be reading them the riot act. Or worse they excuse the behaviour 
Being spirited and full of life does not equal being a rude bugger, stealing and trying to get other children into trouble.
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