to want a fairytale

[Flojo1979]

I've screwed up so many times i lost count, mainly my own fault. And now i want the happy ever after, i meet men who trample on me. I got 2 DCs and i just want a nice daddy for them and someone i can cook for and snuggle up on the sofa with, I end up smothering them and expect too much that i'm never happy.
And right now i've got fat tears rolling down my face cos the latest bubble burst.

have some unmumsnet hugs!

No advise as i have this sinking feeling that i am the same.

Hope someone can help soon

It's not unreasonable to want the fairytale, but even what would appear to be the happiest of relationships are rarely happy all the time.

I think happiness lies in what is realistic. Next time round, remember that comminucation is the key. Keeping talking about what you want, love, fear etc etc BEFORE getting in too deep, you should be able to tell then if you both have similiar values.

In the meantime

YANBU.

So, get yourself some counselling and read yourself some books. If you are recognising a pattern in your self and the men you are attracted to and attract, that's a really great thing - awareness is the start of healing.

Good luck.

I'm going to be blunt so forgive me. There is no such thing as a fairytale. And really, your dc shouldn't be a consideration when dealing with a new partner. If they are aware you are after a daddy for your children I'm afraid a lot would run a mile. Let the relationship go slowly, and bring your dc into the equation only when you're pretty damn sure there's a future.
Breakign up does suck. But if you meet men who trample on you maybe you need to ask yourself why that is? Are you just so happy to be with someone tha tyou'll be with anyone?? I have a friend liek this and it's horrible to watch her go from one bad relationship to the next. You will find someone you're happy with. But only when you have realistic expectations of both yout partnerm but more importantly, yourself. I'm not a perfect fairytale person. So I would never expect perfection from a partner. It's unrealistic.