Going back to work - feeling guilty

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I have a good job and I have managed to get part time work - I took DD to look at nursery yesterday and it is a lovely place. I should not moan but I am not looking forward to returning back to work - I love my little DD and it is going to break my heart to go back in September. Did anyone else feel like this and does it pass ?

Every day, and no - 4 years on......

yep and no

Yes, I felt like that. Especially on those days where they wail all the way to the front door! Yes, it passes when you realise they're having a fabulous time at their nursery or childminder..... and you get to spend some time with adults.... and you have a bit more money to play with.... and you appreciate the time you spend with them more. :)

I did at first - but it did pass. I could see how happy and settled dd was so decided that guilt was a bit pointless. I couldn't change anything, so it seemed stupid to beat myself up about it. I think the thought of returning to work was much worse than the reality in my case.

I have the rare, odd moment but on the whole I think me part time working is best for both of us. Nursery a day a week and Grandma a day a week do us both the world of good. So yes for me it has passed.

It gets easier. Went back 3 days a week when dc1 was 13 months, found it v hard but there are small compensations - shopping and lunch in the lunch break is nice!

But I still would like to be a SAHM - part of me just wants to cling on to work for fear of never being able to go back IYSWIM

I was still b-feeding 2 feeds - morning and night when I went back and that made it hard - I had to leave at 5 on the dot and endure the sarky comments about being a part timer

Hope it goes well for you OP

I don't have children yet (we are expecting) but a US senator once gave me this piece of advice: the person it is hardest on it the parent, not the child. The child will be fine. Guilty parents are just mourning their own loss.

Yes, but it gets easier. When I stress about it I chant "university fees, pension" to myself and then I feel better, I mean I want my DC to have opportunities later on and not be held back as adults by needing to look after their parents etc.

i would love to be a stay at home mum for a few years but i hadto go back to work when both mine were a few months old ds1 is 4 ds2 is 1 next week i,m the main breadwinner so i had no choice we are lucky that we both work shifts so we in the main work opposite each other so at least one of us is home with the kids most of the time whatever choicesyou make as a working mother is hard but as long asyour children are healthy and happy your doing ok

cheers Guys. She is going to be fine in nursery I just have to pull myself together and get on with it.