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To get uppitty with mother on hols

19 replies

corsa100 · 06/05/2011 13:46

Me and dh took our foster children (aged 9 and 4) to Haven for a treat as they had never experienced a holiday before.

LO was having the time of her life and one evening we were sitting in the family club, watching a show. The people on the table in front of us moved and this other family jumped into the seats - situated right on the edge of the dance floor. They moved the chairs around to give their son (around 6) a good view of the stage and plonked their pushchair right in front of LO.

I politely asked her to move the pushchair as LO could not see past it. She said, "I am allowed to bring a pushchair in here. What's your problem?" I stated that I had no problem with bringing the pushchair into the venue but thought it rather rude that she plonked it right in front of LO. I also explained that LO is partially sighted.

She told me "to get a life". Her son, later, moved from his seat and I put LO in his seat, where she could see the stage. This woman said, "Hey that's my son's seat. He is sitting there". I said, "Is he invisible then?. But no problem. When he returns he can have my LO's seat. You know the one directly behind the pushchair"

Her OH then tried to remove my other child's seat to place in front of their table, for his son to sit on whenever he returned - but dh took it from him Grin

This woman then joined in a gameshow on the stage. Every one around us, who had seen what had happened all shouted for every one of the contestents except her.

She lost. Grin

AIBU to think she is just a rude bitch and deserves whatever shit life is going to throw at her? Go on I can take it.

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burgerandchipswithredsauce · 06/05/2011 13:54

YWNBU at all. If she had put a pushchair in front of my child she would have had the pchair over her head lol!

BeerTricksPotter · 06/05/2011 13:56

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 06/05/2011 13:56

Mean of her and so pointless really.

Birdsgottafly · 06/05/2011 14:00

Your right to vent on here and not in RL. However 'life' will not just throw 'the shit' at her but also at her children as you must realise being a foster carer.

lookatthetime · 06/05/2011 14:18

No YANBU she was. Oh the power of Karma eh?

Birds. Sorry I don't understand you post. Do you think OP was BU because the other mum acted like a moron in front of her kids? What has that got to do with being a foster carer? The other parent has a right to bring her children up in whatever way she sees fit. If that has a damaging effect on her children then that cant be anyone 's fault but their parents. Confused

florencedougal · 06/05/2011 14:22

makes mental note not to go to Haven places or similar

fishtankneedscleaning · 06/05/2011 14:29

Corsa YWNBU. I would have done the same.

I am not sure what being a foster carer has to do with it either Birdsgottafly. Would it have made a difference if the OP had not been a foster carer and the pushchair was placed to prevent her own dd from enjoying the show?

I agree that whatever shit is thrown at the mother or her children it has nothing to do with anyone else. If parents want people to treat them and theirs with respect they have a duty to show their children how to be respectful to others.

redexpat · 06/05/2011 21:07

Love it! Grin Also love your DH for backing you up!

saffy85 · 06/05/2011 21:49

YWNBU I don't understand why some people seem to go through life looking for confrontation. Mind you, I didn't understand Birds post either.....

To sum up, Karma's a bitch. As was pushchair lady Grin

heliumballoons · 06/05/2011 21:59

YWNBU. All you asked was for her to move the pushchair she put in front of your LO.

I have done it before, unintentionally (place pushchair badly I mean) and if it was pointed out I'd be Blush apologise and move it.

Birdsgottafly · 06/05/2011 22:02

What i meant was that, yes the other mother was unreasonable but any shit thrown at a parent also hits the kids, so i wouldn't personally wish bad luck on someone. The OP is a foster carer, foster children often end up in foster care after suffering the effects of 'shit being thrown at the parent' ie a parent would never be the only one affected.

BTW-karma is the releasing of negative energy into the universe, not just back onto the person who behaved badly. We all then suffer from the effects of the of 'karma'.

troisgarcons · 06/05/2011 22:05

And they let you loose bring up other peoples kids?

fishtankneedscleaning · 06/05/2011 23:15

Troisgarcons uh?

What was it the OP did to warrant that comment?

BitOfFun · 06/05/2011 23:17

YANBU- good for you.

corsa100 · 06/05/2011 23:30

Yes troisgarcons amazingly they do. I'm not sure they would if I went around blocking children's views with a puschair and inflicting bad Karma on my foster children tho Grin

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kidzrfreaky · 08/05/2011 00:33

YANBU to ask her to move her buggy. YABU becasue you did not smash her in the face when she asked whats your problem. I hate ignorant fuckwits like that. My OH would have accidently smacked her OH when he tried nicking the chair too. Cheeky bastard! Was there a deathly hush when it came to cheering for her in the competition?

kelpie6333 · 08/05/2011 00:42

Hats off to you for standing up for yourself and your kids. That situation was so unnecessary and confrontational.

wotnochocs · 08/05/2011 09:48

that's Haven for you-ChavFest!

fishtankneedscleaning · 08/05/2011 16:17

I have met some really lovely families in all the years we have been to Haven. (We have a caravan at one Haven site so go there every school holidays).

But yes wotnochocs there does seem to be an increasing number of chavvy families there lately.

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