Brief background - dd is 10, very bright but not perfect (no good at science for example) but good enough at English for it to stand out to peers (lots of house points, stories read out, wins competitions etc). She is also "odd" (was ?Aspergers for a year or two, has been assessed as needing help with social skills by peadiatrician and educational psycologist) had lots of support at old first school but far less/none really now at middle school (10 - 14). We live in the sticks so no choice of school. School is very "good" (outstanding Osted etc, middle class area). We cannot afford private.
Most days at school she is "hassled" by the other children. They make fun of what she eats; what she says; how she acts etc. They say that her stories (if read out by teacher) are rubbish, that I am fat ?? (am a size 10 - not sure where they get this one from :) ). They also get her to say or do things (like run or recite a poem) and then laugh at her. She trys to avoid them but they then poke her etc until she reacts and it is all the children from what I can gather (more than just her year even) - ie she is "odd" enough for them to either ignore her or laugh.
She is very stoic but obviously bothered enough to tell me about it. She had various comfort items which she carries around out of school and has recently started to carry more of them around, more often, so I'm guessing that she is genuinely bothered.
Have been to school (several times). They deal with each individual incident but will not accept that there is any ongoing problem with her. (All they have suggested is that she is attention seeking - ie telling us about it for our attention - this is why I mention the comfort objects - ie that seems to show it is not attention seeking).
She has no friends at all - 8 months now at new school but never been asked to tea, can not ask any to tea as she says that she does not know any of the children well enough to ask them (have asked school if they can put me in touch with parents of children on her table or something but they can't).
She said the other day that it didn't bother her too much but that it was "a bit of a pain being made to feel like a freak all the time".
I can't decide if this is normal ragging that you need to learn to cope with (dhs opinion) or "girl bullying" (although being done by boys as well).
Have tried after school activities - she goes to one but all the rest locally are full with huge waiting lists (which she is on) and she does not interact with the children at the one she does go to - just the adults.
She is coping well at present but I am concerend that she will have to go into pubety with no peer group.
Any suggestions welcomed please :)