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to consider taking DD out of nursery one day a week?

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myhouseWILLbecleanthisyear · 05/05/2011 16:19

This is a bit more WWYD situtation than AIBU. Sorry its a bit long too.

I recently realised I didnt have many close friends so decided to go out and do something about it. On facebook I found a group of mums who organise meet-ups and from this another new group was formed. I thought this was the ideal opportunity to get to know some new mums.

The creater of this group has a weekly coffee morning at her house. Ive been to the last three weeks and DD has enjoyed herself there playing with the other children (mostly aged 2/3). There are only generally 4/5 of us mums and Im starting to feel settled with these people.

However, DD (age 3) goes to a nursery attached to the primary school 5 mornings a week and we have only managed to go these last 3 weeks as firstly it was easter hols, then the royal wedding and today the school (and nursery) is closed due to the voting today. The thing is do I take her out of Thursdays so we can keep going?

I can go by myself, which isnt a problem but I can only stay for an hour as its the other side of town and I will need to leave so I can pick DD up. Or I can be late every week and go after nursery, but as they start at half 10 I wouldnt get there till half 12 and for how long would the mum want us at her house. The other alternative would be to take DD out of nursery on Thursdays. The nursery is only open 9-12 anyway so there is no other option of having her there in the afternoons.

Im thinking of only taking DD to nursery 4 days a week so we can carry on going to the coffee mornings, but I dont know for sure how long they will go on for, but there is also the advantage that if I ever wanted to do anything else I have that day to be able to do it without thinking Ive only got x amount of time before having to pick DD up? I havent got to know these women yet that well to arrange to meet another time anywhere else, but if I keep going on a Thurs morning I may get there.

So WWYD? Do I take DD out of nursery's on Thursdays or do I keep her going and just make the odd coffee morning? This nursery is attached to the school she will be going to and it is getting her prepared for going to school, which wont be till Sept 2012.

Thanks. Sorry its long.

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SarkyLady · 05/05/2011 16:28

Is there any reason not to do this?

Flisspaps · 05/05/2011 16:31

Take her out!

BuntyPenfold · 05/05/2011 16:31

Why not? Sounds like a nicer option for both of you.

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myhouseWILLbecleanthisyear · 05/05/2011 16:48

sarky No theres no reason NOT to do this. Im just worried about the coffee mornings not going on for much longer, in which case it will have been a waste of time and I might not get her back in. Also the fact that this nursery is attached to the school, in fact the reception class are often integrated with the nursery and the teachers are the same. Just going 5 days a week is a bit like going to school, apart from she comes home at 12 instead of just after 3. So I am getting her ready for that.

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Bogeyface · 05/05/2011 16:51

you have over a full school year yet til she goes, so I wouldnt worry too much about preparing her for school until this time next year. If you needed to get her back in then you have all that time in which to do it, so I would take her out. It sounds good for both of you and tbh right now your need is greater than hers!

Firawla · 05/05/2011 16:56

are you allowed to do it? if you are then yes, its only one day per week and a nice activity for both of you so why not
i thought school nurseries get moody about it though if you don't attend 'properly' or do they not? (mine has not yet started so may have got wrong impression)

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myhouseWILLbecleanthisyear · 05/05/2011 17:15

Firawla I havent asked them yet. I dont think so because when Ive had to fill out the form for the government funding they have told us that we can put more than one place down. So if they did get bothered by that then they wouldnt have told us what to do if we didnt have them there everyday.

Bogeyface Im just worried about getting her back in because they are fully subscribed anyway. I know of another little girl who cant go wednesdays as they are full. There are 3 or 4 primary schools in a close space and this is the only one with a nursery attached so quite a few go there before going to another school.

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WereOffToSeeTheWizard · 05/05/2011 17:28

Is this part of your 15 hours or do you pay?
Either way it's up to you if she goes or not.

Bogeyface · 05/05/2011 17:32

I would still do it, because worse case scenario is that you dont get the place back, but she would still be there 4 mornings a week. My DD's and DS only went to nursery 2 days a week and they were fine when they went to school :)

bubblecoral · 05/05/2011 17:40

She does not need to go to school 5 mornings a week to get ready for school at 3 years old. Plenty of children don't ever do 5 days until they get to school, and they settle in fine. I'm a pre school teacher btw.

Why wouldn't you take her out, sounds like it would be much more fun.

colditz · 05/05/2011 17:41

YANBU she will love having a day for Mummy.

Ds2 only went 3 days a week, and that's normal for this area.

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myhouseWILLbecleanthisyear · 05/05/2011 17:46

Thanks, I have decided. She's not going to go Thurs mornings. :)

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