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Original poster

to take my children out of school for a day to go and see a show?

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 15:57

got a chance to get cheap-ish tickets but it means them missing a day of school. They will be yr 9 and 11.

I have never done this before - I don't really approve but, and this a very large BUT, both have missed out on school trips recently (more than once) due to school policy of pulling names out of a hat, which pisses me off a bit.

So should I through caution to the wind and book it? and if so do I then tell school we have a nasty case of D&V or the truth?

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GypsyMoth · 05/05/2011 15:58

when is it? i think they've had enough time off this last month!!

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:00

not till next december.

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compo · 05/05/2011 16:00

Can't they go after school in the evening, at the weekend or in the holidays
yabu

silverangel · 05/05/2011 16:01

YABU - if they were in primary fine - yr 9 and 11 not fine!

CaroBeaner · 05/05/2011 16:01

What is the show?

YABU, really - go in the holiday, w/e - and address the 'names out of a hat' issue separately. Anyway, maybe thier names will be next!

valiumbandwitch · 05/05/2011 16:01

nyanbu, you're their parent. It's your call, but you're being U if you are going to expect the school's blessing.

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:03

can't afford to do normally priced tickets which is why i am considering this - and it would be the whole day.

the trips they have both missed out on were not 'educational' type ones and those days they were in school for. so this maybe addressess that a bit.

i have had words about the trip allocation - but that's how they do it and its tough.

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:05

but i really don't approve and have never done such a shocking thing before - which is why i have a dilemma - and i am excessively pissed off with school after DD2 missed out AGAIn on something.

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:06

Grin at throw. never notice that one. whoops. inmy defence the pollen is making me blinder than usual.

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MadameCastafiore · 05/05/2011 16:07

I would do it in primary but not the years your kids are in.

I think it is highly dubious getting kids to lie to school too, they often slipup but allowing them to not go to school and lie about it is setting areally bad example about your relationship with the school.

We all have to pay more for holiday sand shows etc due to them being out of school hours - afraid it is just something as parents we have to swallow.

valiumbandwitch · 05/05/2011 16:08

Yeah, I totally see your logic, and I think the benefit outweighs what they would remember of what they were taugt on one day in a school year. It'll be a nice family memory and that outweighs one day of school imo. YOu know that their attendence is generally good?

Just do it, don't apologise for it, and then once you've made the decision to do it just enjoy it and don't agonise over it. I will be taking both kids out of school in June for 3 days (they've hardly missed a day all year. Apart from Snow actually!)

My plan is just to write a short note to school saying "i have decided to take x and y out of school for 3 days for a short holiday'. That's it. NOT 'can I?'

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:08

arse. i am tempted but but but.......

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valiumredhead · 05/05/2011 16:10

I'd do it :)

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:10

DD1 hs missed one day sick in the past 6 years.

DD2 has had major school issues in the past but has made huge leaps and improvements and hasn't missed a day since christmas (and the 2 since september were when she was actually sick - not refusing).

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:11

and show is frivolous entertainment - not high-brow theatre.

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usualsuspect · 05/05/2011 16:13

I would do it

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:14

school is unreasonable for not acknowledging the huge effort she has made just being there in the last few years and making sure she is not sitting alone all day when every single other child in her set has been chosen to go out for the day with their friends.

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EverythingInMiniature · 05/05/2011 16:15

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Oakmaiden · 05/05/2011 16:15

Oh, it is only one sodding day! Go for it!

Spoken as someone who only ever takes her children out of school for doctors appointments or if they are actually vomiting. Anything else, and they jolly well go to school, and if they are REALLY ill the school will send them home.

But honestly - one day???

Don't lie about it though. Tell them what you are doing. Is the show in London (trying to think why it might be all day). If so take them to the Science museum or something too. :)

hocuspontas · 05/05/2011 16:17

Yr 11! Are you MAD woman????

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Crevix · 05/05/2011 16:17

oh i don't know. i want to but i shouldn't but it's an opportunity to do something nice for a change but it's wrong.

could make it educational. maybe take them to a museum too.

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GypsyMoth · 05/05/2011 16:18

if in London,then cheap tickets are available all year round

but thinking about it,it is only one day. how close to end of term??

snow or something might disrupt your plans anyway and take decision out of your hands!

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