to forge thank you letters from the children?

[valiumbandwitch]

They are old enough to write thank you and a couple of lines, but by the time they've done their homework and chilled out after school it will be become a nagging war, I just know it. They did do a few, so it's not like the concept of thanking is alien to them.

So I've just written the last three very short thank you letters with my left hand, and they look fabulous. Everybody will be happy, the elderly relatives, the children, me........

Am I a master criminal or am I being very unreasonable?

Naaaah, that's fine. I would totally do it too.

I think the intention was there and that is enough, Maybe nex time print some out and jus get the to write thank you and their names on it, quicker and easier.

oooh phew! first time i've done an aibu without doing a name change first!

armadillo hyde here

I do it on the computer and print out :-)

5 year old can write pretty well but writing several thank you notes is a bit much for her. I write some of them if there are a lot at once and get her to sign her name.

Done it! |:)

I thought everyone did. They have whole class parties, collect the presents in a sack, open at home and mother writes a letter saying 'Dear X , Thank you for the xxx I will enjoy playing with it. I hope you enjoyed my party. love (and the DC possibly signs a name)- ask the DC what x actually got him and he won't have a clue!
The trouble is, for relatives, you can instantly tell if it was written by the parent or DC! I don't mind, but I know perfectly well that my nephew doesn't write his-the turns of phrase are pure BIL!

Probably a little old fashioned but I was always made to write thank you letters... however long it took me. The most I ever did was about twenty and it took me the whole of January. I hated it but it did teach me a lesson and I still hand write all my thank you letters (now about six... one of the benefits of being an adult!). If the child can't write yet then absolutely no problem, but if they're old enough for homework then how hard is it to write, 'Dear X, Thank you for my x. I had a nice birthday/Christmas with my family. Love, X'?

we plan to write thankyous too - son will dictate and i'll type. might take half an hour?

what a bloody good idea!

Oh RoseC you obviously weren't brought up in the school of "thank you letter etiquette" - according to my mother it's terribly rude to start thank you notes with "Thank you for the..." since you are supposed to maintain the polite facade that you would write to them anyway.

I suspect her hardline approach is why I consider them utterly unnecessary and encourage the kids to phone and say thank you instead. I reckon it's nicer for the gift-giver to actually hear how much they enjoyed it rather than torturing them by making them write thank you letters. Occasionally they send thank you emails or thank you postcards, but only when they feel like it. They MUST always say thank you somehow though!

OP - YANU, I say as long as a thank you is given in some form, that's the most important thing.