to be a bit annoyed by mum's 'real chicken' comment.

[NoseyNooNoo]

My mum cooked for my children at the weekend and DD has told me that they had 'real chicken'. This is what my mum called it. Now from this I deduce that my mum was thinking along the lines that all my children eat is chicken nuggets and turkey twizzlers. I'm really a bit peeved that she is making comments like this.

To be fair, I have never cooked just a plain breast of chicken for them and presented it on its own. It would be something like a chicken tikka or chicken satay.

To put it in context my mum thinks she is a proper wife and mother because her life is about housework. She thinks she is a super cook (who happens to cook veg for 40 minutes at a time and buys everything from the freezer-aisle) whilst I, in her view, couldn't even boil an egg. She even said this weekend that my daughter has asthma because I don't vacuum enough - the truth is DD does not have asthma and I vacuum every day.

It's petty I know but I resent these little comments, especially since they are now being said in front of my children - grrr!
It was good to get that out!

Are you sure she didnt say "roast chicken" and they misunderstood.

No, my DD knew what was said - I clarified it several times and my DD has a brilliant memory.

I think you are over thinking this tbh

DD has been good enough to say she didn't like it as much as 'our chicken' - that's my girl!

I think your mother may have a point about the chicken.

The asthma comment is out of order but not sure the chicken comment is worth getting yourself upset about - I can see why you might make assumptions based on previous comments, but you are just making assumptions about what she meant.

i agree....over thinking!!!

Have you ever cooked them a whole roast chicken/dinner?

Well if the kids have never seen plain roast chicken, they might not have known what it was so your mum said it was 'real chicken' meaning 'not processed or cooked in sauce and just as it comes'.

You're overthinking chicken-gate. You clarified with your DD "several times" what your mum apparently said? Will your mum be allowed to cross-examine the witness your DD?

I do understand being annoyed at sly digs wrt how often you clean your house and stuff. I get this from certain people like my inlaws. Pisses me right off.

Maybe they said "Yuck, Granny, what's this? Doesn't look like any chicken I've ever seen?!" so she responded with the real chicken thing.

I would try and let this kind of thing wash over you.

YANBU to ahve a moan about it on here though :)

I tell my dc they are having real chicken and I cook all the time. They eat 'real' chicken a few times a week. They have chicken nuggets/frozen fillet thingys about once a week.

You are over thinking. Although the asthma comment is nasty.

IME there can be a bit of a generational gap in what constitutes a 'proper' dinner. I have heard a relative talk about their daughter and say that she doesn't cook a proper dinner every night - when asked what her family eat, she replied, "Well, things like curry, pasta etc". In some areas of my family, it's not proper if it's not got gravy on it.

Don't sweat it, Mothers are sent to try us.

Ugh. Plain chicken is just nasty. I hate when my mum stays. I hardly ever see her (once every 2 months or so) but she instantly transforms into Supernan once she steps foot over my threshold. She knows that socks are an effective communicable disease repellant. Getting dressed before 8am means a great start to the day and my dishwasher is making my plates too squeaky which means I must wash them by hand during her stay. (As if)

@ chicken gate

I agree though you are overthinking this one..

Could be several things like perhaps its a free range or an organic or perhaps the dk asked "whats that?" granny " its chicken" dk "chicken???" looking doubious (not used to seeing it like that ) " granny " yes a real chicken"

Nosey did not actually say her Children eat Chicken Nugs etc though - so presuming they do not I think Mum is wrong. I reckon the Chicken Mum cooked was just plain, plain, plain and OP's Children are more adventurous than that.

Also if veg is cooked for 40 minutes it has no nutritional value by then.

If you really need to Nosey buy a Magic Egg - they are fab!

YABU

Roast your kids a chicken.

Or roast your Mum and give the kids a twizzler.

Well if your children have never seen a chicken breast then she kind of has a point. How old are they? I'm surprised that you have never given them roast chicken.

Invite your mum round for a dinner of "real chicken", bring her one under a silver platter cover thing and open it up to reveal a real live chicken that would squawk at her and scare her to death.

My 5 year old decided she didn't like roast chicken any more but she will eat chicken in the form of curry or casserole. I don't see the importance of them "experiencing roast chicken" FWIW. It's hardly the taste sensation of the century. It's probably about the last thing I would order from a menu. I had never cooked roast chicken until a couple of years ago - I cooked an awful lot of other things though. It's ok but as I said, hardly an essential eating experience.

5 year olds should not be making demands of what they will and will not eat IMO.

Yes my children have had roast chicken before and seen it carved up but I think it is quite a boring meal and they prefer duck if they were to have a poutry roast. No I don't serve them nuggets or twizzlers.
The chicken was from my fridge.

I've delayed replying because my mum rang - she was mostly talking about my aunts lack of housework so it's not personal.

I like 'chickengate'.

I have some sympathy! For my family, I will always be the slightly incapable, day-dreamer I was in my teens. I leaned towards being an intellectual sort but wasn't into household tasks. Now in my 30s, I still have the same reputation. So they come to stay, and I spend the time in the run-up trying to think of all the things they could find fault with. I clean out the fridge, clean out the bread bin, sort out clothing drawers for the dd etc etc (all stuff I would do anyway, but staggered rather than all at once!). And I never quite manage it. Someone at some point will say 'Now I've dusted that bookshelf for you' but the implication is that I'm a bit slovenly for not having done it. Or 'goodness this floor needs a wash'.
I mostly just try and appreciate the fact that they do the cooking and cleaning. But I do sometimes gets quietly annoyed at the fact that there seems to be a standing family joke that I'm a bit crap at the domestic stuff. Because in fact, I haven't really lived with any of them for 20 years so how would they know?
I think families do have a tendency to form opinions based on not much evidence, and stick to them. Sometimes it leads to you wanting to thump them. Those little comments needle, but I have come to the conclusion that I will never be a grown-up in my family's eyes.
YANBU!