and hypersensitive? Or is dh an oaf?

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Would you think it was rude if your dh sent you this meesage at the last minute, when you had picked up the kids from school and rushed a dinner for them because he was taking one of them kayaking in the evening?

"ok - on the way - can you ask ds to change into comfy clothes & trainers, and pack a spare set of clothes/shoes in his bag please"

I think it's just the tone, I feel like the nanny

My DH is dyslexic so he probably wouldnt have bothered with the 'please'.

So by my standards the text was a bit over the top with the fluffy stuff!

Sorry, but YABU.

Your DH was doing what so many DHs are useless at - actually thinking ahead about what DS would need and taking responsibility for organising it (although he wanted to you to pass on his instructions because you were present). He did say please ...

he was asking me to pack the bag, not ds!

There's nothing wrong with the message although obviously his new found oratory skills he picked up from the Blarney stone don't stretch to texting.

So what? How old is your DS? All you did was pick the kids up and cok a meal!

And dh asked you to please put certain things in DS bag...he's thinking ahead...saving time....you sound very paranoid.

OMG divorce him immediately he is clearly abusive!!

Sorry but I really think you need to get a grip! That seemed to be a perfectly polite text to me! I wouldn't have taken offence at it!

so what if he asked you to put - what - two things in a bag for your son. that will take all of a minute won't it?

Hope you pit some Zovirax in the bag too!

Put

Well he is obviously a stonewalling gaslighting abusive bastard, you should be packing HIS bags, how dare he speak to you like that...

Get a grip love!

I also think YABVU. He's thinking ahead, probably sent the text in a rush yet still managed to put please! AND for something he's doing with ds later.

Absolutely sounds fine.

wow hyoersensitive is an understatement

you have ishoooooos

sorry

No it's not rude.

how old id ds?
I'm sorrry but that texting is asking YOU to merely ASK your ds to do two things

and even if he was asking you to put some things in ds' bag there is still no issue wiht ti at

I mean what is your dh allowed to ask you politely to do?????

Wake up and smell the coffee!

I would divorce him, in fact get an injunction out on him tonight!!!

YABVVU AND HYPERSENSITIVE!!!

I would be delighted if my dh thought ahead and took responsibility for getting organised like that. If dh was taking ds out I would definitely be packing the bag myself aswell as cooking tea etc. Dh wouldn't think 2 even think what was needed and there wouldn't be any pleases. What are you upset about? he's asking politely for your help

He's being passive aggressive and clearly has NPD

YABU. There's nothing rude in that text at all.

DIVORCE THE BAAAASTARRRD!

YABU.

If DH is taking the two DCs out at the weekend, he will sit at the computer going on his equivalent of MN and I pretty much get everything ready, and the kids ready so all he has to do is put them in the car and shoot off. Its annoying.

I'm with reshape divorce the good for nothing. Fancy taking one of the children kayaking and making sure they are ready!!!! OMFG!