MIL Threads - same advice - anyone taken it?

[pingu2209]

There are so many MIL (or other In Law) threads on here, over and over. Different stories but also all the same. I find them facinating reads as I actually get along with mine!

The advice from most readers is always the same - talk to her/him/them and if they don't stop/start whatever it is they are doing, tell her/him/them to FOff, stop seeing them or from them seeing the GC etc.

The thing is, nobody ever comes back and says whether they took the advice and what happened.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, for my own morbid curiosity, have any of you out there actually taken the hard line approach with the In laws from hell? And what has the outcome been?

Yes I have. I have been blunt, I have laid dwn the law and I have told her when she's pising me off. I KNOW she has then gone and moaned about me but tbh I don't care. My DH knows what she's like and he sympathises.

When I first met MIL DH would inervene a lot on my behalf as I was shy to tell her where to go...now 8 years later I do it alone!

Mine is mad. She is lovely t my DC though who love her so I would NEVER cut her out or anything.

Oh...the outcome is that she gives me a lot of hmmthose looks and she sometimes gossips about what a cow I am.

I mean not hmm

Not about MIL, but I have taken advice about my mum and sis before.

Both worked.

I did MIL was screaming and shouting at DP in front of DC and I asked her to leave my house and not come back without a apology for her behaviour and unless she is willing to treat us with respect and she physically attacked me. We dont speak anymore which is hard on DP and DS even though she treated them both like dirt they miss her and I constantly have to explain why she is not allowed round to DS without manipulating or bad mouthing her. So while it is hard life is much easier and better and we made the right choice we are all much happier I just wish we hadnt had to do this and I wouldnt reccommend doing it over something minor but if the behaviour is very wrong then it is the only thing you can do.

Interesting feedback. I can't believe your MIL physically attacked you Crawling!!! I hope your DP puller her off you!

I completely cut MiL out of my life. It was very simple. We moved to the ME.
During the long summer holidays, DH would take DD to visit his family, I would go and see my friends and relations. DH always took DD back to England for a few days before christmas too.
She could not be civil to me so she was deprived of my witty, charming company

I got a real bollocking when I posted about having my MIL for Christmas again, the upshot was that she came and I felt bad for having moaned about her. She was hypercritical of everyone.

Pingu my MIL has a history of abuse (poor FIL was badly abused but unable to complain because back then he would have been laughed at) but yes Dp did seperate and he decided enough was enough.

My MIL was caught out a treat, while having her hair done she engaged in some serious DIL bashing. My friend is the owns the salon, told me, when i saw MIL told her how lovely her hair looked,asked iwhere she had it done, then went on to ask if she had met x as she and i were friends.
her face was a picture