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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that being in a hurry and not being able to find a P&C space does not justify........

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LifeIsButtercream · 02/05/2011 18:02

........ parking a 4x4 sideways accross a disabled parking space (and its checked boxes either side)?

Without a blue badge I may add.

I may have had my judgy pants pulled up a bit high today, but bear with me!

I was going to the supermarket earlier with 2yr old and friend, we pulled into the car park and were lucky enough to find the last free P&C space. We pulled in and the mum in the car behind (4x4, 2 school aged children in car) honked her horn and gesticulated at me when we pulled in (toddler was obvious in back seat thanks to rather gaudy pink car seat) then drove past and yelled out the window that she was in a hurry. Opposite us was the disabled access spaces, all but two of which were taken (it was heaving), she pulled into one at such an angle that it covered the checked boxes as well (practically sideways).

She gets out of the car and ushers her two skipping children into the store muttering something about the spaces being for disabled people but she was in a hurry and really couldn't care less.

Call me crazy, but that just strikes me as a hideous attitude, I felt a bit red-mist about being shouted at for daring to arrive in the car park before her, so I'm not sure if I'm just being a judgy pant wearing moody cow little excessive, but seriously what if someone with a mobility issue or disability needed to use a space?

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fruitshootsandheaves · 02/05/2011 18:06

You should have blocked her in with 50 trolleys reported her to the store management

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LifeIsButtercream · 02/05/2011 18:08

In hindsight I should have noted numberplate and informed customer services, but DD had decided to chuch an epic strop and this distracted me somewhat!

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MrsKwazii · 02/05/2011 18:12

Why didn't you use your time-machine to go back a few minutes and make sure that the space was free for her? Jesus, how rude are you? Couldn't you tell how incredibly busy and important she was?

Southcoastsarah · 02/05/2011 18:14

i feel the same way about P&C spaces, completely couldnt care less :)

IronOrchid · 02/05/2011 18:17

She sounds a complete tosser. Worse still, people like that shrug off confrontation while us decent sorts seethe for hours. Gits!

buggerlugs82 · 02/05/2011 18:17

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LifeIsButtercream · 02/05/2011 18:19

Likewise - I appreciate P&C spaces when I find them mainly cos it makes it easier to get DD out of her car seat which can be a squeeze in regular spaces because I have a fat ass but they aren't an essential commodity like disabled access spaces.

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grumpypants · 02/05/2011 18:24

on this note, today was the first time i was actaully cross enough to say something to somebody. There was a car parked on the cross hatchings outside the supermarket, on the corner of the Pand C spaces, but not indicating. Anyway, I hovered around, but when somebody left, this parked car beeped at me and indicated he wanted the space.
So, i waited around a bit as all the other spaces were miles away, really busy, one of mine (had 3 small ones) is useless at calm walking across busy car parks, finally gave up.
Bloke just standing by the car, chatting to the two kids, not getting them out, so I said 'you wouldn't let me have that space just so you could sit in it?' bit of argument - he was waiting for 'the others' to arrive - and then i just couldn't be a*sed anymore.
Point of my lengthy scribe op is, if someone parks somewhere they are politely asked not to, they think they are more important than you/ the shop/ the blue badge system. Simple.

Salmotrutta · 02/05/2011 18:28

I like the "blocking with 50 trolleys" idea

I never get to see crazy loons arrogant people like this in action.

You should have written "selfish parking" on her windscreen with lipstick - like that thread from ages ago which was very funny.
And it would have been hell to remove thereby reminding her every time she got in her car

FreudianSlipper · 02/05/2011 18:36

judgy pants need to be worn at times

p&c places i do not give a toss who parks in them but disabled places i do. my friends twat of a husband will park in them if there is two or more free but he is a twunt and i do not expect anything better from him

rainbowinthesky · 02/05/2011 18:41

I reported a sleeping bloke with 2 sleeping kids in his car who were parked in teh nearest disabled spot to the store with no badge. THe customer services of the supermarked said nothing they could do as sadly no longer policed. I knocked on his window and pointed out to him he was parked there with no badge. His reasoning was that the parent and child spaces were all full. I pointed out it's perfectly possible to manage with 2 kids in a normal space (2 kids were asleep anyway) and that being a parent hardly equated to having a disability. WHat a wanker and his partner too who was obviously in the shop.

emskaboo · 02/05/2011 18:57

Salmotrutta; that was me, and largely because of the MN vote of confidence have done it again since! :)

emskaboo · 02/05/2011 18:58

Oh gosh, I was so overcome I forgot to say YADNBU OP, the 4x4 woman sounds a right charmer

TheMonster · 02/05/2011 19:01

Ah but she NEEDED the space for her large car.

I have put three trollies behind a car before

Salmotrutta · 02/05/2011 19:01

That thread was so funny emskaboo - and you've done it again since!!!

Top girl!!

bubblecoral · 02/05/2011 19:49

The woman was out of order, but from what you said she probably knew that. So you should try to remember that you never know what's going on in other peoples lives, and perhaps give her the benefit of the doubt just this once. It sounds like she was stressed, and anything could be going on for her today to make her behave in a way that she never normally would.

Grumpypants, sounds like you had no more right to that space than the other guy did. If anything, you had less right, he had been waiting for it.

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LifeIsButtercream · 02/05/2011 20:36

Thats true bubble, I could be presuming that she was dashing in cos she had run out of loo roll/fruit shoots/onion rings/scotch pancakes/fags/chicken kievs/personal lubricant, when actually it could have been something important, a presciption etc, or picking up something incredibly important on a tight timescale.

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grumpypants · 03/05/2011 13:18

bubble - how so? i wanted to park and go into the store; he was standing by the car, sitting in the car, chating to his kids in the car - and not actually leaving the car to erm go shopping?

HRHShoesytwoesy · 03/05/2011 13:23

hope you reported her

HalfPastWine · 03/05/2011 13:28

I would have hoiked up my judgey pants too had I seen it. It's times like this when you wish you were a traffic warden or similar and could just wack a ticket on their car. More for the feeling of self satisfaction if anything!

aliceliddell · 03/05/2011 13:31

If these tossers could have ONE DAY actually needing disabled facilities I would be overbloodyjoyed. If any of you have any doubts, take it from a wheelchair user, I would be bloody delighted to see some able bodied people challenge their selfish behaviour. On behalf of pissed off crips everywhere - Thanks!

Daffodilly · 03/05/2011 14:30

P&C spaces have me seeing red too.

I pulled into local supermarket car park at weekend and car car infront of me took last P&C space. I had DS(2) and DD(4) with me so was bit irritated as they had no kids at all.

I wound down window and pointed this out. Man was v rude and said he "was ill". So????

Luckily we ended up seeing them several more times inside the store and DD pointed said in her fog horn voice "Look mummy, there is the rude man again, he was NAUGHTY wasn't he mummy?" each and every time. I think he got the message!

Still perhaps he really was ill and having a worse day than me.

PlopPlopPing · 03/05/2011 14:46

Hmm could you have let her tyres down?

Hammy02 · 03/05/2011 14:50

I don't understand why she beeped her horn at you OP? Did she think her time was more precious than yours?! Cheeky bint.

Quenelle · 03/05/2011 16:17

She sounds like one majorly-stressed woman. If I was having a good day I'd probably give her the benefit of the doubt.

If I was having a crap day and could be arsed to get involved I'd tell customer services. When our Waitrose was a Safeways they used to cover the windscreens of cars with 'polite' notices if they were illegally parked in the disabled spaces.

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