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To nip to the shops with DH in bed and DC alone?

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 10:10

I probably AM BU.

I need MN to tell me though.

DH is in bed...he has been on nights.

He is light sleeper and on my bike I can get to shops and back within 10 minutes.

My DDS are almost 7 and the youngest is 3. Older one is very capable and younger is mouse-like.

AIBU aren't I?

I don;t want to make them drag walk to the shops and back...10 mins will turn into 40....15 there and 15 back...10 in the shop moaning for comics....they will take bout an hour to get dressed in decent clothes....at te moment they are happily playing....

Can I go and lock the door?
[I know I can't can I?]

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nannyl · 02/05/2011 10:12

if DH is present i really dont see the problem.

I assume if there was major emergancy the children could get his attention

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 02/05/2011 10:12

Silly question, but why don't you just pop your head round the bedroom door and say "I am popping to the shops, kids are downstairs, see you in a bit"

That's what I do. And he gets up.

Bluemoonrising · 02/05/2011 10:13

I would. Their dad is in the house and will wake if he is needed.

Is it any different to them getting up in the morning while you are still in bed?

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 02/05/2011 10:13

oh - if he's on nights then he'll probably stay in bed but at least he'll know you're out the house. If he hears crying or other noise and he doesn't know you're out of the house, he would probably not go to investigate straight away because he'd think you're there. So he'd need to know you've popped out.

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 10:14

He only got into bed at 9.00 Hec.....he's beenup all night so feel mean.

Bluemoon..they never get up without me Blush they come nd get me up.

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DooinMeCleanin · 02/05/2011 10:15

Mine are the same ages and I do that. I just tell dd1 her Dad is in bed and to wake him if they need anything. I also let DH know I am nipping out.

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 10:17

Really? Am I not BU? Wow!

[afraid]

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squeakytoy · 02/05/2011 10:17

I think it is a bit unfair if he has been at work and is trying to get some sleep, its not like he is having a lie in.

meditrina · 02/05/2011 10:17

You DH is there and would wake in a real emergency.

If it's really only 10 minutes, I'd do it - providing the DCs are well occupied with something harmless (or glued to the telly) and have been read the riot act about staying put whilst your out (eg no going into the kitchen), not to answer the door, and told to wake Daddy if they're not sure about something.

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 10:20

That's what I worried about Squeaky.....but to be fair I have worked from 7.00pm until 3.00am or the last three nights....

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redundanttiara · 02/05/2011 10:24

I'd do it. DH used to work nights and would happily hold the fort (whilst in bed with his eyes shut) if I needed to nip out. I sometimes take a nap (highly decadent) on the sofa in the afternoon and wake up to any shrieking from similarly aged children.

glendathegoodwitch · 02/05/2011 10:40

awwwww bless you for worrying so much over this - your OH is in the house - its not like you are leaving them home alone (believe me i have heard of much worse) and as long as your 7 yr old is kinda sensible and your 3 yr old is not going to follow you out the door then - i wouldnt hesitate in nipping out just let 7yr old know and if they are good and carry on doing as they were they might be rewarded???

mine is 11 and 5 and i have nipped to the shop before while daddy in bed - i could leave my 5 yr old for a week and she would be fine - making butties, getting drinks, getting washed and playing with dolls where as my son would probably starve and be sat in the same clothes lol

ChristinedePizan · 02/05/2011 10:42

You absolutely can :)

hairylights · 02/05/2011 10:44

YABVU. you're effectively leaving a 7 year old in charge of a 3 year old. not a great idea.

darleneconnor · 02/05/2011 10:49

What do you need to go to the shops for?

Can you just take the 3yo?

I'd do it, I mean there is an adult in the house.

bejeezus · 02/05/2011 10:52

i would

welshbyrd · 02/05/2011 10:52

I would leave them, 10 minutes is fine

On the very slim chance something major happens, your DH is there

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 11:15

darlene if I take the 3 year old it will be twice as long leaving the 7 year old alone for longer than if I went alone on my bike...the three year old woul ae to get in her buggy and would slow me down tonnes.

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WhiteBumOfTheMountain · 02/05/2011 11:16

Pretty much deided I cant go...ant have DH woken up if they have a row.

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 11:25

Not fair to tell your OH your going out, I would not dream of waking my oh [he works nights too] when he is asleep.

Why dont you just take the kids for a nice stroll down and back, get some fresh air and exercise.

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