She is 8 years old and in year 3.
On Thursday at school she was sick twice and wet her pants. The school nurse has confirmed that she is not ill. Her teacher (who, awkwardly, is a close friend of mine) has told me that she is doing it deliberately - she watched her jiggle about all through an assembly and a maths lesson, denying she needed the toilet before basically just standing still and weeing in the playground. Then later in the day she saw her out on the path jamming her fingers down her throat after asking if she could be excused because she felt sick. She was sick again in a bucket in the sick bay but nobody was watching her so, again, it could have been self induced.
Since then we haven't been at school but my younger daughter wet herself at the park this morning (only turned 4 last week, so whatever, I expect it occasionally). She cried though and I suppose I did fuss over her a bit. Ten minutes later older daughter was wet too. Previous to this I don't think she's had any accidents for more than 3 years, she's 8 ffs. This has to be deliberate!
Partly I'm worried that she is looking for attention (I'm a single mum, I work very long hours) but I'm especially worried about the throwing up as I have an eating disorder (and my daughter's teacher knows that). I'm 99.9% certain that my daughter knows nothing about this but I'm terrified of some genetic or unconscious influence - this is very unlikely right?? She has always been a very very picky eater but has never said that she thinks she is fat (she's very skinny).
Has anybody ever experienced their child doing anything like this deliberately? For attention?
Am I being unreasonable and over reating in worrying that she is going to develop some serious problems?
I just don't want her to turn out like me.