To SELL my phone to my son?

[Latte81]

I bought a San Fransisco phone and it cost me £100. I've looked after it so it's still in new condition - my son has always loved it and really wants one. So anyway I've only had it since christmas but I'm fed up of it and am going to by a HTC Wildfire. Son asked if he could have the San Fran but aibu to sell it to him for £40 so I can put the money towards my new phone? They're still selling for £70 second hand so it is a massive discounted price! lol I think he see's it as being a bit tight as Im his mum!

But zukie that is an ideal world you are talking about and many of us would love to be able to do that but as you are all to probably aware life ain't like that [cwink]. I see nothing wrong in selling my dd's clothes that are no longer useful to contribute towards clothes that do fit her, I also give to and buy from charity shops and have many hand me downs from friends and relatives for my children. I also hand them down, hand me downs get passed on either to another child or given to the charity shop to sell, things I have bought that have lots of decent wear I try and sell, if they don't sell I give to the charity shop. I wouldn't like to profit from a gift from someone so I tend not to. But I am afraid that your view is quite unrealistic especially with regards to a car!

Just a question, if you had the car and gave it to someone else who then made money from it would you not be just a tad pissed off?

but zukie it's not profitering (sp?)... it's compensation, don't you see?
her son has a phone.. if he wants another, better phone, he needs to pay to upgrade. Latte is losing out financially by allowing her son to do this, but gets the chance to teach him he needs to pay for the nice things in life.
Your mum unfortunately, was mean about the tv. Throwing something away worth 50 quid is just wasteful.

Fair enough

But Zukie, perhaps if you didnt act like a rich philanthropist when you clearly cant afford to, then you wouldnt have such money worries.

I am not being rude when I say that, I am speaking from experience as I have had times when I was on the breadline as a single mum and if I hadnt sold some items second hand then I would have been in real trouble. The refusal to sell items on would have ended up with me in court for non payment of council tax or rent when things were really bad.

Its fine to be generous when you can afford it but when you are living in poverty, the refusal to make the most of your assets, which includes selling them when needed, is frankly bloody stupid!

That said, I think your mother was tight about the TV, that would have annoyed me too.

Sorry, I should also add that your insistence that nothing is in your house that you havent paid for, is a double standard and damaging to your life.

Pride doesnt put food on the table, and having household items you need is whats important, not where they came from. You give away items but wont accept such gifts back? And you are prepared to pay for second hand things, but you wont sell you own second hand things?

That makes no sense whatsoever! It really is a ridiculous stance to take!