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AIBU?

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To think that announcing that you are going for a crap is weird!

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Pfriend · 30/04/2011 20:27

I have a friend that always tells you when she is going for a no 2. The reason she does it is to give you the opportunity to go first before the bathroom is smelly (even though she has a) a window and b) air fresheners). She thinks that this is the polite thing to do. She gets her husband to announce it when he is going too.

But I find it so odd, even though I know it is meant with the best intentions. Especially when said to a room full of people!

Is she being reasonable and I am a prude?

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FabbyChic · 30/04/2011 20:29

I really don't like hearing when people are going to the toilet, even if it smells after so what, people have to do it, you just don't need to be told about it.

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 30/04/2011 20:29

No. It's not polite. It's odd.

Maybe laugh and say "Good god woman, I know more about your bowels than your doctor does! Just slip away quietly and then use air freshener like a normal person!"

CareyFakes · 30/04/2011 20:29

Huh?! TMI on that front.

I don't care if someone is going for a piss or a shit, just say you're going to the toilet, or if really prudish, going to powder ones nose (make up wise, not coke wise).

That would annoy me, I'd have to tell her to wind her neck in with that guff.

thisisyesterday · 30/04/2011 20:29

um, no she is being quite weird i think!

icooksocks · 30/04/2011 20:30

I tell my DH , but only because he insists on telling me.

MmaIvvy · 30/04/2011 20:31

yanbu
My SIL called me upstairs the other day to ask me something and she was doing a no2 with the door open and thought it was totally normal to expect me to stand and chat to her! Some ppl are just a little weird (love her really)

BitOfFun · 30/04/2011 20:31

Back in a minute...

Dontbugmemalone · 30/04/2011 20:44

YANBU, it's sounds like a very odd thing to do.

CareyFakes · 30/04/2011 20:46

You still have a dum BitOfFun? Wash your hands and spray, ta

AgentZigzag · 30/04/2011 20:48

You'd just ask if anyone else needs to use the bathroom and leave them to their imagination.

I love Jim Royle saying he's off for a tom tit

IreneHeron · 30/04/2011 20:50

It is normal in our household, but to announce it to a friend is just odd (except my DH who has disgusting habit of mentioning stuff like this).

indifferent · 30/04/2011 20:57

Hmmm...my DH does worse - he ASKS the DC after they have been, whether they did number 1's or number 2's and, if the latter, how many pieces and whether they were floaters. It is not exactly the height of wit.

heliumballoons · 30/04/2011 20:57

I keep airfreshener in my bathroom, anyone is welcome to use it - without explanation.

onepieceofcremeegg · 30/04/2011 20:59

I'll post in a bit, am just off for a poo.

BitOfFun · 30/04/2011 21:01

My dad is the worst- he announces to telephone callers that my mum is in the toilet. She throttles him.

atswimtwolengths · 30/04/2011 21:13

God, indifferent, what's up with your husband? That's disgusting!

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 30/04/2011 21:14

If that was my dad, I'd get so fed up that I'd say "Since you're so interested in my poo, I didn't flush the chain. Go in and look at it."

AgentZigzag · 30/04/2011 21:16

'My dad is the worst- he announces to telephone callers that my mum is in the toilet. She throttles him.'

'Sorry Aunt Hilda she's in the shitter, do you want to call back in about...say, half an hour? She should be finished by then'

mitochondria · 30/04/2011 21:22

Everyone in my house always tells me. Boys are 6 and 4. Husband is old enough to know better.

Glitterknickaz · 30/04/2011 21:25

I always announce to the family that I'm going to be anti social
That coupled with me carrying the paper is usually my method of letting it be known.

I wouldn't dream of doing it to guests though!

PiaThreeTimes · 30/04/2011 21:31

YANBU.

I don't like it when adults say "I'm going for a wee" either. Just mention that you're going to the loo - that's all, 'nuff said!

TheSmallClanger · 30/04/2011 21:32

It took several years to train Tiny Clanger not to do this.

We have a window that can be opened easily in the upstairs loo. I normally direct guests to the upstairs toilet. We have a downstairs loo, but it is next to the back door, not very private, and in an area of the house mostly frequented by the dogs.

Tortington · 30/04/2011 21:34

fi wouldnt do it in company - but i don't stand on ceremony where dh is concerned - if he shouts up ' mrs custy where are you darling wife can i be of any assistance dearest?'

i shout back' just having a shit love, put kettle on'

MayBankHoliday · 30/04/2011 21:36

YANBU. Just go to the loo, no need to announce it!

onepieceofcremeegg · 30/04/2011 21:37

so romantic custy.

I tend to hear footsteps on the stairs and swiftly kick door shut with my foot. I really don't want to hear dh ask me some random question or the dds come in to remark on my hairy bottom or some other personal remark.

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