We've been on holiday at our caravan by the seaside for the last 12 days- me, dh, dd (7) and ds (5).
Everyday dh has managed a good chunk of 'time-off' on his own, gone off for 4/5 runs, nipped to 'shops' (ie. needlessly skived off), etc etc. Whereas
I've had about two hours freedom in total. I'm really starting to feel like the hired help here.
Don't get me wrong, I totally love being with my kids (even though ds would try the patience of a blardy saint) but I'd really appreciate the opportunity to do something for myself once in a while. I bought myself some hair colour at the beginning of the week, but not used it yet- and this is what I call a holiday!
Btw, dh and I work together running our own business so he can't claim he has greater work strain than me- I sit opposite him all day!
On weds ds was really badly behaved (we are waiting for referral to paed for help with suspected special needs, but that's another story) and dh was really struggling to deal with it. I had already taken the kids to the play area for a 40 mins that morning while dh arsed around at the caravan in peace. Then later, we went out and dh wanted to look around a town but I knew that ds would not tolerate it so I said I would wait in the car with kids (rather than suffer the pain of wrangling ds). After that we needed to go to the supermarket (food shopping is dh's favourite hobby), again I took the children to the park and he had well over an hour (surely unneccessarily long for two day's food?) mooching round waitrose.
On Thursday he leaves at 11am to go and visit his brother (was his birthday) and have a big night out. Meanwhile I'm dealing with ds and a two hour tantrum- fun, fun, fun! Dh gets back at 4pm today. He's not spoken tonight 'cos he's too tired, gone to bed at 9.30pm announcing that he'll be going for a run first thing tomorrow.
On weds eve I said I'd like a bit of a break and that he'd had quite a lot more free time than me, he just made a cutting comment about me needing to go to bed earlier then I wouldn't be so tired 'We're all having to suffer because you don't have enough sleep'.
Don't get me wrong, in many, many ways he is a really fantastic husband (and a good dad too) but sometimes he takes me for f-ing granted!