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Babies!

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Debbbie68 · 29/04/2011 20:36

Am I unreasonable feeling jealous of my friend having a new baby when I have two of my own and am almost 43!!?

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Chocolocolate · 29/04/2011 20:48

YAB a bit U

BaldricksTurnip · 29/04/2011 21:02

You are probably jealous of the idea of a new baby. In reality they're blimmin hard work!

FabbyChic · 29/04/2011 21:02

I've never thought of babies as hard work, have had two and always wondered why people said it was such hard work, in fact it's boring, requires no brain activity at all.

kw1986 · 29/04/2011 21:03

I would say YANBU... Can't help your feelings.

I'm jealous of a friend who plans to have a second child at some point in the future. But thats because Im single with one DC, and might never have more if no eligible men turn up!!

thisisyesterday · 29/04/2011 21:04

nope yanbu!
i get it all the time

in reality i actually don't want another baby right now, but i do have a twang of jealousy each time i see a pregnant friend.

kw1986 · 29/04/2011 21:05

Or perhaps envious is the word... Hmm

BaldricksTurnip · 29/04/2011 21:05

It's not that they're physically demanding- more the lack of time to rest especially when you have other little ones running about. I'm currently pg with DC3 and so much more tired this time around, although chuffed to bits to be having another bub :)

hairylights · 29/04/2011 21:05

What the heck has being 43 got to do with it

chocadoodle · 29/04/2011 21:06

YABU to be jealous as you've already been lucky enough to have your own, but NBU to be a bit broody. Babies have that effect on some of us.

thisisyesterday · 29/04/2011 21:06

fabbychic... i thought that when i had ds1

i used to sit aroun while he slept, wondering why everyone said it was hard work

then i had ds2 :-S

BaldricksTurnip · 29/04/2011 21:10

It's also quite tough to be on the other side of things and knowing people are feeling jealous because you are pg or have a new baby. What you really need is support from the people around you, not envy!

HystericalMe · 29/04/2011 21:28

hahahahaha... babies make you feel jealous? Just spend time with them then then you get all the good fun and none of the sleepless nights!!! Babies don't make me feel jealous. But maybe it depends on if you're feeling broody or not.

MissBetsyTrotwood · 29/04/2011 21:31

What's making you jealous? The baby or the attention she's getting for having it?

I think I understand a bit of what you mean. I get jealous of the fuzzy mega bond between mum and newborn - I had it with one of my DSs but not with the other (PND) and it's so so precious.

blueshoes · 29/04/2011 22:01

I don't feel jealous. I feel a bit sorry for all that they will have to go through and quite relieved it is not me.

SmethwickBelle · 29/04/2011 22:09

Babies have a powerful effect, especially that helpless little newborn sort that you know will just sleep for hours on end and look awesome.

Within weeks they'll be chubby squawking demanding bundles of NO SLEEP and then you have the weaning... and the teething... and the toddler tantrums.... and they get heavy and kicky.... and all with the whole NO SLEEP thing.

Enjoy and delight in these babies of your friends... and then enjoy handing them back x

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breatheslowly · 29/04/2011 22:20

Would you like to borrow mine? Not quite new, but definitely baby enough to remind you.

PinkToeNails · 29/04/2011 22:25

I don't understand how people find babies boring. I have never been bored with my DD. Every moment with DD been totally amazing. Even watching her sleep or listening to her heavy breathing when she's alseep. Maybe I'm boring.

Totally understandable to be a bit jealous. I get a bit jealous when I see people with a bump.

breatheslowly · 29/04/2011 22:37

I don't understand how people don't find babies boring. I love my DD but I do find her dull at times. I have no idea why people would work in a nursery as it would drive me up the wall. I am very grateful that there are people out there who don't find babies boring.

Can you tell that all the baby activities in my area have stopped for 3 weeks Wink.

Cymar · 29/04/2011 22:49

I love babies............but only when I can hand them back to the parents at the end of the day.

ledkr · 29/04/2011 23:04

i always feel a bit like that but i am going to cure it by using the bottled feelings i have saved from the last 12 wks of my babys life,i feel as if i am finally crawling out of some sleepless joyless void into my life.She is lucky she's so cute Grin

naturalbaby · 29/04/2011 23:09

i'm hoping the envy of bumps and other tiny babies will stop soon before i get myself pregnant again. i could do it all over again just for that moment when the baby is actually born. love it. i have a 3month old dc3 but could do it all over again, despite having vivid memories of thinking "this is hard work, i am never doing this again!" during labour with dc3.

ReindeerBollocks · 29/04/2011 23:15

My best friend is pregnant and I'm very envious and broody at the moment, so YANBU in my eyes. I adore newborns and would love another child but it's not right for us at the moment plus DD is going through the terrible twos Grin

chipmonkey · 29/04/2011 23:28

YANBU. I am 42 and pregnantWink This is definitely my last and I will know I will be very jealous of pregnant friends in the future when I am done.

rubbersole · 29/04/2011 23:37

YANBU. It's soooo hard for some of us to see and be around pregnancy and new babies. BaldricksTurnip really?!? You want me to support poor diddums through the awfulness of being the object of others' envy? Um - no, I think I'll carry on hoping they're grateful for what they've got and not moaning about shite like that. (Not to say they can't moan about real stuff - sleeplessness etc)

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