To be be really surprised at this in this day and age!

[FessaEst]

Am actually really angry!

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been sorting out our finances in preparation for the birth of our second child, and my second period of maternity leave in less than 2 years. I have been speaking to a financial advisor, who I found through a friend's recommendation, and he has been very helpful in helping me to get things in order. We haven't met, only spoken by email and over the phone. My DH has had no contact with the IFA whatsoever. Today, I have received forms to fill in and a covering letter, all addressed to Mr F (his initial) Est!!! Not even Mr & Mrs! [cshock]

My knee-jerk reaction was to send a stiff email, but have resisted, and am hoping my irritation will wear off.

AIBU to be so surprised and feel annoyed?

yanbu. that is really crap.

I would go with the stiff email. Does he think it's still the 1950's?

I'd get your dh to write back saying there must be some mistake, he hasn't had any discussions with this person.
But that his wife may have had and she can be contacacted at X address.

Might make the point to the idiot, stuck in 1950s man!

Stiff email called for.

Send it back with a polite note saying it is incorrectly addressed. Mr Est has no interest in your services and if you can't tell the different between Mr & Mrs or think that Mrs Est should not have any interest in the finances then perhaps you need a new sphere of employment.

Send the email.

[cgrin]

Glad I am not going mad! Was surprised at the strength of my reaction tbh, and am pg & hormonal, so was not sure if IWBU. V glad to hear my senses are intact.

I am looking forward to composing my reply!

He has sent forms to someone he is not doing business with. It is both extreme sexism and extremely unprofessional. I would tear him off a strip TBH

Good god a man is pregnant! You'll make a fortune selling that story.

Stiff email and if it happens again you will be taking your business elsewhere.

Breach of confidentiality! How does he know you're doing this with your husbands say so? You could be putting an escape plan together from an abusive relationship

Email him and say how offended you are that he assumed you were a man!

I'm pretty sure that's a breach of the data protection act if it contains any personal details about you on the form?

Send the stiff e-mail calling him a Neanderthal twat

Agree, get DH to write back.

Because you opened the letter addressed to DH, either you'll be in the wrong for opening someone else's post, or you're just making a silly fuss because "You knew what we meant really, ha ha, no harm done."

If DH writes, they have no escape from "WTF are you doing writing to me about someone else's confidential business?"