FGS I don't want to go!!

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DH is sulking and I'm the bad guy beacause I don't want to go to a friend's house this weekend.

We did arrange to go a few months ago. In the meantime, said single friend has got a new girlfriend and has cancelled on us on a couple of oocasions. Don't mind - new girlfriend and all that.

Anyway, we've just got back from two week holiday and straight back to work this week. I still haven't caught up with washing, housework and I pretty knackered to be honest.

Friend lives a couple of hours drive away (I do all the driving) and I'll spend quite a bit of time on my own with DS (2) and DD (6) whilst DH and friend go cycling - they're usually out for 4-5 hours at a time.

Also, his house is huge and being renovated so there are lots of tools, equipment and quite frankly dangerous stuff lying around. So I spend lots of time trying to stop DCs from touching stuff. Oh, and the house is on four floors so I have to try and stop them DS from falling down stairs, especially inyo the cellar.

Sooo, I've said I would prefer to spend the weekend at home, the four of us, doing some day trips and just relaxing. DH has taken his bat home saying we had an arrangement and should stick to it and that I'm being unfair.

So AIBU or should I suck it up and go?

Ooh yes - suggest a game of soldiers instead!! :o :o

Seriously though, doesn't sound a lot of fun - could he and friend curtail a bit of their cycling while you and the girlfriend go for a meal with the kids (men pay?)? What's the new girlfriend like? Then you go and book yourself in for a few glasses of wine spa treatment somewhere nearby for the afternoon while he and friend look after the kids?

btw, does he shave his legs? :o

N.O.

Spells no!

Tell him !

So he is nice and happy when you are doing all the housework, all the washing, driving him everywhere, sitting around for hours while he goes off outside, looking after children that are his as well as yours.

He is not happy when you ask for some family time and peace because you are fecking knackered.

Calls you selfish and sulks. Also threatens to take off for the entire weekend to his office leaving you to do all the afore mentioned drudgery.

Let him. You will be doing exactly the same just without the bloody driving and him around.

Presuming you both get time 'off' then I'd just send him on his own.

But then my DH is off for a week mountain biking in Spain next week

But I get to go away on my own too and works well for us.

What Xales said. Let him fuck off and sulk so you don't have to taxi him about/look after HIS kids for him.

Well, he's out of the office () so I suspect the sulking won't last long. He's also made a start on washing up, so I reckon he's got the message.

Don't know what the new girlfriend is like - we haven't met yet. I think that might have been part of the plan for this weekend, but if it was no-one told me.

No, he doesn't shave his legs usually. Maybe I could offer to wax his legs this weekend ... isn't it supposed to be painful?!

Tell him to go on his own, don't see why it has to be escalated into an argument tbph. Just tell him you'd rather stay at home where the kids have all their toys and where you can get on with your chores.

I think you should leave him at home and book into a hotel for the weekend.

If you want to be helpful, leave him a list of jobs so he doesn't get himself all flustered about what needs doing.

Had the royal wedding bank holiday been announced when you made the plans? Could you argue that as there is now the extra bank holiday things have changed and you'll change it for a different non double bank holiday weekend...

And if you are feeling that bad on your return from holiday maybe now is the time to crash in bed and leave your dh to look after everything now so that if you do end up having to go you will either not be able to as you are still in bed poorly or will at least feel a little bit better for having had a rest?

Or would you trust your dh to drive and go with the kids while you stay at home poorly and recuperate?