To bring ds back from this neighbours house?

[mosschops30]

we live on a small cul-de-sac, most people are ok but a few of tje neighbours we dont speak to, mainly over parking issues.
We have new neighbours next door who are lovely and habe two dcs and i took them out earlier and ds has been over there to play.
However, ijust found ds playing over a house of someone we dont speak to,sje s the gm of te child ds and next doors dcs were playing with.
Not only is she a vicious nasty backstabber, she was horrible to my friend after her mc, she and her husband have also abused my neighbour in tne street. I dont want my ds over there knowing how much we dislike each other.
I asked him to come home, and had to explain to my new neighbour that we didnt get along.

Ds is now sulking cos he asnt ot nyone to play with and i feel bad

YANBU - they dont sound like people you want your DS mixing with...in fact YWBU to let him play there knowing what you know about them.

Am sure your DS will get over it xx

YABU it is best to let your DC play with whoom they choose...unless of course you doubt they are fit to care for your DC.

Whom...not whoom!

Yeah but not if it is in a house with an abusive mother (not abusive to the kid but generally abusive to the folk around her I mean)........I agree they need to make their own friends but if it was a horrid family I would put my foot down.

Theyre not horrid in the sense ypure thinking, they live in a large detatched house and are quite well to o, or so they like to think, she looks down on e everyone else. But she s a real piece of work, i dont want her poisoning my ds. Her husband thinks nothing of shouting at a woman alone out in the street.
They are the grandparents, not parents

If their grndchild is not local...ie he does not live there all the time...then YANBU. It's not like he will be at the same school is it?

YANBU, although it isn't nice for your DS to stop playing, it is best to avoid nasty people like this.
If they can do that to a grown woman what are they capable of saying/doing to a child?
Keep him away from them, letting him stay in their house excuses their behaviour.
I think people forgive and forget to easily sometimes, that is why nasty pieces of shit get away with it for so long.
As a community we should cold shoulder anti social abusive people who live among us.

YANBU I would have done the same

OTTMummA - exactly what I was trying to say but you worded it so much better!!

YABU

he was playing with the child not the grandparents

Sorry Mosschops but I agree YABU. You can't let your own disagreements cross the generations. Otherwise it'd be like the bleeding Gaza strip.

I would say YABU, your adult arguments should not be brought into childrens friendships.

Likewise, if your children fell out, would you then fall out with their parents because of it? I would expect not.

It is very unfair to penalise a child for being friends with someone just because you dont get on with their parents/grandparents.

Whats the school got to do with it? I know they dont go to the same school, and i wouldnt have a problem if they did, the little girl is lovely, so is the mother (lives round corner). Its just the grandparents that are horrible, and she despises me so much i wouldnt want ds spending any time in her company, shes so spiteful i wouldnt put it past her to be mean to ds or make comments about me, thats how awful she is

Your child will be left with no-one to play with if you keep this up. If the children are having fun playing together surely that's a good thing?

Of course not, but why would you leave your child in the care of someone who cant even be civil to another human.
There are plenty of mums up the school i dont love, but our dcs are friends, thats the wy it is, but theyre not nasty people.

To be really dramatic, if the guy across the street from you got drunk and beat his wife at weekends would you stilk be saying 'oh but theyre playing with the children not the dad '? No of course you wouldnt, you allow your children to play where they are safe nd you feel comfortable

Lets put it this way, would you be ok with having to deal with these people, knowing how vile they are if an altercation happened between the children, however minor?
They sound extremely unreasonable and nasty, if i know someone is like this i don't want my child near them or their children because god knows what mess you could end up with on your doorstep over a couple of kids being kids to each other.
keep clear, the more people shun these people the less people they can have around to abuse.
Maybe then, they might get the message their behaviour is unacceptable, or maybe not

mosschops I only meant that if they went to school together and lived nearby then it would make sense to encurage frienships....it's good to have schoolmates close by.