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AIBU?

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royal wedding more important than my birthday?!!?

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twenty5 · 27/04/2011 21:28

several close family members and friends have stood me up on my birthday to stay at home and watch the royal wedding.

Have tried to co-ordinate wedding into my day to involve them all, but they have all come with one excuse or another to stay at home!!

I dont want to throw a tantrum, after all its not an important birthday or anything, but to go to the effort of arranging a lunch in a restaurant etc on such a day for us all for some to let me down. AIBU?

not sure really :S

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thisisyesterday · 27/04/2011 21:30

omg! that's sooooo rude. if they're that desperate can they no9t just tape it???

i'd be really quite upset if i were you :(

worraliberty · 27/04/2011 21:31

YABU really yes.

Surely you can arrange lunch for Sat, Sun or Bank Holiday Monday? Smile

TastesLikePanda · 27/04/2011 21:32

I personally think YANBU but I am a precious little princess fussy about my birthday and I don't even like sharing it with a girl at work.

Why couldn't they have a gathering at your house, or whoever owns the biggest television house and make it into an all day pissup party?

ChippyMinton · 27/04/2011 21:32

YABU

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twenty5 · 27/04/2011 21:33

oh i am!! i only found out today its because some of them are sad enough to actually want to go to london to get 'involved' and its apparently 'a rare occasion'.

to be honest my attitude now is 'sod em'. lol. if theyd rather get stuck on a tube in central london they can.at the restaurant, im having their share of the wine! Grin

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herecomesthsun · 27/04/2011 21:34

Oh, I am quite happy that the entire street is organising a party the day after my birthday! Saves me the bother...

ChippyMinton · 27/04/2011 21:35

Good for you Smile
Have a great day!

pooka · 27/04/2011 21:36

YABU.

You have a birthday every year and have a four day weekend to choose when/with whom to celebrate.

I'm not massively into the RW, but still would never have dreamed of arranging a do for the day - lots of people see it as a rare and huge spectacle. And it kind of is.

thisisyesterday · 27/04/2011 21:37

yeah a "rare occasion" to be stuck in hideous crowds for hours on end in the rain to "see" the wedding of peiople they don't even know

gah

still, more lunch for you Grin

lucysmum · 27/04/2011 21:38

i am very happy to have a bank holiday for my birthday, lots of bunting around, excuse to drink early when we toast the happy couple, peal of bells at local church etc. Won't happen again !

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/04/2011 21:41

You're not being unreasonable. I think it's sad that these so called close family and friends think more of strangers than they do of you, that's a bad show. I don't suppose they even suggested celebrating your birthday on Saturday or any other alternative day, did they?

Do your own thing, OP, just remember next time they place you in the position of doing something when you'd rather be washing your hair.

Happy Birthday for Friday! Grin

cardibach · 27/04/2011 21:41

Could easily be solved by having your birthday do in the evening - the wedding will be well over.

pleatherette · 27/04/2011 21:47

YABU

Your birthday happens every year and the RW is a one-time only deal... Smile

MrsDaffodill · 27/04/2011 21:51

I think YABU. If it weren't the royal wedding surely they would all be at work and you'd have to plan something for Saturday, Sunday or Monday instead?

worraliberty · 27/04/2011 21:52

I don't think it's for anyone to judge whether they should or shouldn't want to watch the wedding...or whether they should or shouldn't head into London for a one off occasion like this.

The fact is, you have birthday's every year. You're not a child that's going to be left disappointed and confused as to why they don't want to be with you on your 'big day'.

Enjoy it whatever happens but I do think you should try to look at this from their POV.

PorcelinaOfTheVastOceans · 27/04/2011 21:56

oh twenty5 YADNBU!

it's DD's first birthday on friday and i have made it very bloody clear that she was here before their engagement, so neh [cwink] we're going to the street party at my parent's, easiest birthday party i ever arranged! [cgrin]

happy birthday for friday!

bubblecoral · 27/04/2011 21:57

YABU, if it wasn't the RW and a bank holiday, surely you wouldn't have arranged a lunch on a Friday for your birthday.

You have had birthdays before, you will have more in the future, this wedding will only happen once. I'd blow out a friend or family members birthday for the wedding too.

NigellaTufnel · 27/04/2011 22:00

YABU

Get over it. You have next year. People want to watch the Royal Wedding with their kids.

It is the biggest event of the year. The one that everyone will be talking about, and you want to sit in a restaurant while everyone else is having fun getting drunk and slagging off the dress.

I repeat YABU

Ormirian · 27/04/2011 22:03

Yanbu. I'd rather celebrate a birthday of someone I cared about than vicariously celebrate the wedding of 2 total strangers. Weddings tend to be tedious affairs unless you are closely involved.

breatheslowly · 27/04/2011 22:32

YABU - if your birthday is on the Friday then the only reason that you/others have the day off is the royal wedding. Also it will be your birthday every year, but the royal wedding just this once.

But happy birthday - find some republicans to celebrate with.

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