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Not an AIBU but a thank you to you all

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rebl · 27/04/2011 19:26

Thank you to all of you who posted to me a couple of weeks back when I was so upset about my dd's party and people not coming because of her brother and the terrible mother who texted me the most awful things. My dd ended up only having 2 people coming to her party because of what parents thought about my ds. You all made me see at the time that I was not being unreasonable (not a single YABU!!!) and that I would be able to turn this around for my dd and change the party to a nice small very special thing.

The party was today. The 2 girls that came were lovely. We went to Build a bear and they all made their bears. We came home and had pizza and chips and jelly and icecream on the lawn in the sun. The bears were treated like royality by the girls as they doted over them, pouring them cups of tea and making sure they had enough food. 4 perfect hours for my dd . I couldn't have hoped for more.

And if more had come there is no way we could have afforded to go to build-a-bear so this was extra special and much nicer than if everyone who had been invited had come as that would have been the nothing special 2 hours of party games affair.

Thank you .

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B4Beatrice · 27/04/2011 19:30

Didn't post on the other thread but did read all the way through it.

I'm really pleased your DD had a lovely day, she will remember it more than a "regular" party. And well done to you for making it happen!

exoticfruits · 27/04/2011 19:30

I didn't see the original but glad it went well. I always think that DCs enjoy personal, small parties best.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 27/04/2011 19:34

rebl that sounds like a lovely day. didnt see original thread because ive been in hospital but im glad you have rose above any negative comments and that you all had a good day!

FabbyChic · 27/04/2011 19:35

Good to hear you had a good day, didn't see the other thread, sorry.

Needanewname · 27/04/2011 19:37

Glad to hear your DD (and you) had a lovely day! I did read the original thread and was insensed on your behalf. Good for you for rising above them

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 27/04/2011 19:43

I didn't see your original thread - but I'm glad it has all turned out well for your DD. I hope the girls tell everyone what a wonderful time they had at your house and I wish evil things on the other ignorant parents

meditrina · 27/04/2011 19:47

I remember the earlier thread.

Thanks for letting us know how it all went, and I am so that your DD enjoyed her birthday treat so much.

heliumballoons · 27/04/2011 19:58

Oh I'm sssssssssooooooooo plesased. I posted a lot on the other thread.

I remember very well how upset you were but also how difficult your situation is with your DT's having to attend different schools.

I'm glad your DD had a fabulous party but have to ask what happened with the loon mother.

SharkSkinThing · 27/04/2011 20:04

Another who didn't see the thread originally but has a warm fuzzy feeling about how beautifully it all worked out for you.

Well done you, super mum! :)

5inthebed · 27/04/2011 20:07

Glad your DD and her friends had a lovely day :)

PigWhisperer · 27/04/2011 20:27

I remember that thread - I was so upset for all of you. I am glad that she had a wonderful day.

Well done you!

Did you ever get anywhere with talking to the school about the other mother?

Carrotsandcelery · 27/04/2011 20:31

I remember the original thread - it was beyond all understanding. I am so glad you rose above it and made sure your dd had a fantastic day. Well done rebl.

Ismene · 27/04/2011 20:35

I remember the thread, it sounds like you had a fantastic day! Well done you for not letting small minded people spoil your DD's special day, you are the much bigger person. Be very proud of yourself and your children

As un-pc and it is, I hope karma bites the other mother on the bum.

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rebl · 27/04/2011 21:15

The loony mum is ignoring me plus anyone else I'm friends with. She is blanking or actively turning her back to me. I spoke to the school and they thanked me for informing them and that they had been aware of things being said to dd by other girls and that it was all being logged and if continued it would be treated as bullying but clearly if its coming from the parents its going to be harder to deal with. Having time off for the holidays I'm hoping will make things easier for dd at school.

It will be nice to be a fly on the wall at show and tell when all 3 girls get up with their build a bear bears . You can just imagine what is going to be said to loony mum by her dd can't you.

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NonnoMum · 27/04/2011 21:20

Glad you had a great time.
Link anyone?

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rebl · 27/04/2011 21:24

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1188003-Am-I-or-is-the-other-mother

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TastesLikePanda · 27/04/2011 21:26

I'm glad your DD had a wonderful exclusive party!
Has your DS has his gathering yet, or is that a treat yet to come?!

SE13Mummy · 27/04/2011 22:16

That sounds like the most amazing party for any 5-year-old! I'm sorry it came about as the result of another's unkindness but, as you say, the fantastic party will be the thing that all the children will be talking about tomorrow. I hope your DS has an equally fun time when it's his party!

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/04/2011 22:26

Lurked on your other thread rebl, really good to hear that your DD had such a lovely day.

lazarusb · 27/04/2011 22:26

What an irrational woman! She sounds barmy. Well done for rising above it and sticking to your guns. Glad your dd had a good time

Jux · 27/04/2011 22:39

What a lovely party. How jealous the others are going to be when they find they missed out on getting bears! How desperately they are going to want to go to your dd's party next year (but they can't, mha ha ha!).

StewieGriffinsMom · 27/04/2011 22:43

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