to wish people would shut up about natural conception after IVF?

[PicaK]

I know i'm being unreasonable
I know these people care and aren't trying to hurt me.

But on low days I really, really struggle to understand how they think i want to hear about other people who gave up on ivf and then caught naturally.

It's such a hard choice, to stop, to say no that's it. We can't cope with the drugs and the disappointments and the surgical risks any more. We are drawing a line. We are moving on.

We did 5 years of it - and we are beyond lucky because we have a beautiful, adored child.

Did one more go recently trying for a sibling.

But that was still 50 plus months where I spent 2 weeks wondering if this was our lucky month and then having to tell DH it wasn't.

It'll take me a while to stop myself hoping for a natural miracle - but it'd be an awful lot quicker if I didn't constantly have the surprise success stories rammed down my throat!

geesh, i think people are just trying to be nice when they say such things. i hadn't given up on IVF but was fortunate enough to conceive naturally and not miscarry as I had before. I am personally happy to talk about all my "issues" with people who are at least more than acquaintances. I don't think there should be any stigma.

dont worry emptyshell, i dont give a shit, i got my baby and i am expecting, i dont even care about what your saying.[cwink]

now, my children with me, i feel more strong, no crying at all.