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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to feel a bit annoyed by our neighbour?

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fluffyanimal · 27/04/2011 09:38

Am I overreacting to this? We live in a tiny cul-de-sac, only 16 houses all quite close. The other day dh and I were chatting with our next-door neighbours and saying that nobody seemed to have organised anything for the royal wedding and that it would be nice to do so, so perhaps we should do it? So we agreed to jointly organise a barbeque, and I duly made invitations and put them through everyone's letterboxes.

I know some of the neighbours better than others, a couple of them I am Facebook friends with, and today i read on FB one of these neighbours talking about people coming to her street party. She hasn't replied to our invitation yet. I always thought the point of a street party was for it to be for the street. AIBU to feel annoyed that a) she hasn't invited us and b) that there may be some neighbours who now have 2 invitations and feel awkward? if I'd have known about her's I would have offered to help, or just done something for family. Should I just get over myself and suggest joining forces?

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 27/04/2011 10:08

If you think she'd be amenable to joining forces, do it. Otherwise, I'd just carry on as you were.
Can I ship DD over for your street party? She was gutted she didn't get an invite to the Downing street one. She doesn't eat much and is pretty good fun.

DingDongMerrilyOutOfSeason · 27/04/2011 10:09

YANBU to be a bit annoyed but she may just be disorganised. Offer to join forces and have a great day.

katkouta · 27/04/2011 10:19

Are you sure she doesnt mean your street party? Maybe saying 'mine' as in my street?

FruStefanLindman · 27/04/2011 10:38

I don't know much about organising a street party, officially. But I thought that if you were thinking of doing that, then you have to write to all of your neighbours? That being the case, surely she should have contacted everyone in your cul-de-sac. Also, don't you have to get permission from your local council to close the road (OK, it's cul-de-sac but...)? And street party insurance?

It does seem rather odd that she's talking about 'her' street party, but some of you know nothing about it. I suppose you could say to her that you didn't realise she was organising a street party and either offer to join forces or, if she makes it plain that it's 'exclusivist', just have your barbecue for you, next door and anyone else who isn't involved in/been invited to the street party.

Presumably your barbecue will be in one of your back (or maybe, front) gardens, therefore on your own property/ies, negating the need for you and next door to get permission from the Council and street party insurance at this late stage?

YANBU to be a bit annoyed, but maybe she's saying 'street party' as a general term for a 'party to celebrate the royal wedding', but actually she's having the party in her back garden? Sorry - I'm rambling [cgrin].

zikes · 27/04/2011 10:40

What katkouta said.

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fluffyanimal · 27/04/2011 12:21

katkoutka, I don't think she can mean the one I'm organising with our next door neighbour, as she was talking about people coming that I don't even know.

Fru, we are holding ours in our back garden as unlike most of the houses in the street we have a large space due to it being a corner plot. We thought that would be a) easier - no red tape and b) safer for small children as it is enclosed. I am hoping that she is using 'street party' as a general term for a 'royal wedding bank holiday party'. if she is planning to hold it on the street and hasn't invited all the neighbours I will feel a bit miffed.

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fluffyanimal · 27/04/2011 12:22

kreecher happy to have your DD! [cwink]

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AccioPinotGrigio · 27/04/2011 12:42

If she is going off piste and having her own party then 'meh' - as long as you have people coming to your place and have a good time. Have you had any rsvps from the neighbours you invited? Do you know how many are coming?

Maybe have a word with her and see if you can have some arrangement whereby people can drift between the two parties.

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fluffyanimal · 27/04/2011 12:49

Accio I've only had one rsvp, from one neighbour who'll be away. The lack of response is what's worrying me she's invited other neighbours and they don't know how to reply to mine now.

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AccioPinotGrigio · 27/04/2011 13:06

It does seem a bit strange that she would have received your invitation and not said anything herself to you. Perhaps she has assumed you will be inviting friends from outside the street to your party and that you didn't require an invite to her place.

I would definitely have a word and see if you can sort something out.

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