I appreciate that we are not all blessed with the money skills of a banker. But it is not that hard - you pay your bills you split what you have left into 4 and have that amount for each week - when it is spent it is spent. You also remember that your car is due an MOT and Tax and this needs to come into said budget.
I manage my own money pay my share of the bills run my own car put into a pension, save and have some money for Jollies. I work part time.
I manage the joint account ensure the bills are paid that we save what we can and cover the cost of holidays and DS.
DP has more spends then me and is constantly broke, over drawn credit cards etc. I thought he had cleared everything when he was pensions out of the MOD but no there are still charges and things he is not addressing.
for about 2 months he has said I want you to manage my money - OK I agree you have £100 a week for jollies and petrol. He is always asking for more saying it is his money ans doesn't see paying the debt as a priority. (He pays the minmum amount).
Have told him tonight you play by the rules or have your own bank account back.
End of the rant!!
PS I know we are lucky to have enough to give us money for Jollies. But we (he) has debts and I need to look at replacing my car in the next 12 months. ( I drive for work appox 1000 a month so need a reliable car)
And breath :-)